The World has turned upside down in the past decade. That’s very exciting and scary at the same time. No matter how you feel about it, the fact is that there is going to be a hell of a lot more of changes in our lives in the future. The concept of so called technological singularity explains that the pace of change has been accelerating fast throughout history and that means the future will bring even more new radical changes (and uncertainty).
We are directly on the edge of the next, fourth, big revolution – the biotechnological revolution. Robots will become more human and we will become more like robots. We will have self-driving cars, drones, we will live on other planets, nano-robots will cure our illnesses and so on. Yes, with all the new technology the world will become even more exciting place to live, but also more complex, fast changing and (mentally) tough.
Speed of technology change will soon be vertical on the graph above . How can you cope with that?
Therefore it makes sense to analyze why we resist new things and changes so much and cling to certaintyat all costs and what you can do about it.
Simplified, we like certainty, because it makes us feel safe and secure. Even though the change is the only real constant in life, besides taxes, we hate it. This hate towards change is written in our genes for millions of years as a mechanism for survival in the dangerous world.
Not that long ago, you could very easily have gotten killed (in the jungle for example) and to be frank, you still can in some parts of the world. Even if you live in the 21st century and there is no tigers that can eat you, your brains and biological-emotional system still lives in a jungle (or the most dangerous parts of the world). An unknown and unstable environment most often brings threats to you and to yourlife. This is how you experience change on the emotional level.Certainty brings higher probability of safety and survival, simply because you know what you are dealing with.
In addition to that, every change demands effort to adjust.Think of how annoying it is for the first few times when Facebook implements a new change on their site.
So there are the two main reasons why we don’t like change:
Something new = Potential danger (not to survive or mate)
Something new = More effort to adjust and learn (more struggle)
More changes = More stress
The paradox = Only r(evolution) leads to more safety and better life
There is one important trick in the whole picture. With gradual change (evolution) we can usually manage the pace of change quite well (spear to a better version of spear), but when it comes to the big changes – revolution or disruptive innovation (spear to gun) we feel more threatened at our existential level. And when we are dealing with an existential threat, we have encoded a survival response mechanism in our genes.
When we don’t feel safe and secure on existential level there are three possible responses: fight, flight or freeze. All the three responses are extremely stressful for our bodies.
The important fact is, that our need for safety does not stop at the physical level, at the level of life or death threats. The same formula applies for psychological challenges. When we feel we won’t be able to fulfill our desires and expectations towards life, due to colossal internal or external obstacles, we usually have the same response – fight, run or freeze.
None of the responses are good in today’s time. You don’t live in a jungle anymore. You can’t fight information overload. You can’t fight market complexity. It’s like trying to save the Titanic with a small pot; or fighting against 100 tigers at once. As an alternative you could run, but you’d miss out on the whole meaning of life and throw away an opportunity to really enjoy the benefits of today’s world. Freezing, however, is the worst. It means nothing but living in fear and hoping that things will get in order by themselves somehow. When we freeze in life, we become like zombies. Not really living life but just passing through; waiting for death to come.
Fight
Flight
Burn out yourself with fighting the unstoppable trends, blame technology and capitalism.
Deny progress, don’t use new technologies, think about good old days and back off to isolation.
Freeze
Transcendent
Become a zombie, wait for life to pass away, watching TV, and wasting time on social networks.
Understand and optimize your mindset not only for efficiency, but also for adaptability.
So what can you really do about it?
Understand and transcendent
The good news is that there is a fourth alternative to fight, flight or freeze. It’s the fundamental part of the agile and lean life. The fourth alternative is to understand and transcend. Transcend only means that you develop a virtue how to live a quality life in an unpredictable and fast changing world and even more that you live life with purpose that is stronger than any problem or change you encounter.
You have to decide if all these changes are, and will be, a problem or an opportunity for you in the future. The situation doesn’t differ from the moment when fire was invented. You can get burned with fire or you can cook a delicious dinner. The choice is yours. Remember, every change is a threat or an opportunity.
Instead of feeling overwhelmed and stuck in all the complexity, you can take advantage of it and build the dream life you want; the dream life that was quite impossible to live until now, especially if you are not the type for uncertainty. You just have to understand, use the right tools and transcend. Here is the magic trick:
You have to start optimizing your life not only for efficiency, but also foradaptability. The same as nature does.
You can find many similar ideas how to optimize your life for adaptability on this blog. Managing life will only get harder in the future; with more uncertainty, more global competition and more things to master. But if you play your cards right, you can also live the most exciting and fulfilling life ever in the history of mankind.
You can find a lot of information about Kaizen, the basic Kaizen rules as well as more specialized Kaizen rules for teams on this blog. Now let’s look at the same topic from a slightly different perspective. Let’s talk about the so-called Anti-Kaizen. It’s a toxic mindset and includes all the limited beliefs that prevent any kind of improvement and progress.
Before we go to Anti-Kaizen, make sure you remember all the Kaizen rules. The best thing you can do is to download and print the rules and stick them to a visible place in your home or your office. When stuck, look at the list, read the rules, and you will refocus your brain on the path towards the solution, and hopefully stop feeling sorry for yourself. It’s the best way to avoid any kind of Anti-Kaizen behaviour.
You can download the documents here:
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Kaizen Rules: Your Personal Mindset for constant improvement (PDF)
Anti-Kaizen: The mindset that prevents any progress in life (PDF)
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Now let’s go to the most frequent Anti-Kaizen beliefs.
Negative beliefs that prevent any improvements
There are 13 quite frequent beliefs and toxic behaviors that prevent any kind of progress and improvement. You’ll find that kind of behavior in many toxic and unproductive environments, where the status quo is the only constant; and most people in an organization like that are nothing but zombies. Well, even the status quo is only a mirage, because if you aren’t going forwards, you’re going backwards. There is no status quo in the long run.
Here they are, Anti-Kaizen beliefs and situations:
Lying to yourself
Victim mindset and being stuck in an emotional cage
“There’s no need for improvement” mindset
Lack of time
Firefighting and enjoying adrenalin rushes and dramas
Lack of confidence in self and others and lack of courage
You want to change others, not yourself
Getting in trouble for failing or pointing out the problems
Not following up on ideas
Giving up too quickly
Solving problems with additional administration
Hoping that others will do it for you and waiting for better times
Jumping to solutions too quickly
Lying to yourself
If you lie to yourself about where you are, there is no need for improvement. Many times, we like to picture ourselves or even the world as a whole in a much more beautiful scenario than it actually is (or, in some cases, much worse than it is, if the necessary improvement is to relax, for example). But in general, people are very indulgent towards themselves, lying where they really stand, and great critics towards others.
You can lie to yourself that you live healthy just because you regularly use olive oil
You can easily lie to yourself by only looking rich and not really being rich
You can lie to yourself about how productive you are every day, but in reality only work a few hours on the things that matter most
You can lie to yourself that your job is pretty okay, but in reality you suffer a lot and so on
If you want to make any improvements in your life or in any organization, you first have to know where you are. And be extremely honest about it. Today, that’s quite simple with all the data available. Never lie to yourself. Always be honest and seek the truth. Know where you are and where you want to go. Then start improving yourself or an organization step by step. For example, don’t only look rich, actually be rich.
Victim mindset and being stuck in an emotional cage
The victim mindset is one of the most common reasons why people get stuck and never start improving themselves, their life situation and the environment around them. It’s very easy to blame others, from your parents to the government, market trends, life in general, and so on. And many times, you have every right to do so.
But it doesn’t help anyone. Whining, bitching, complaining and feeling sorry for yourself never bring results, improvements or more happiness, only more sorrow. You only live once and if being stuck in an emotional cage is preventing you from improving and growing, start dealing with your past, your emotions and all the cognitive distortions. It’s the best option you have, no matter how difficult your past was.
There is always a move you can make in your life towards a better position. After you stop being a victim and take full responsibility for your future, you will easily find a move you can make. Don’t be a victim, take control over your life once and for all, and start improving. If you focus on problems, you’ll only get more problems in life, and if you focus on solutions, positive things will start happening to you.
“There is no need for improvement” mindset
You can have a growth mindset or a fixed mindset. If you have a fixed mindset, you assume things are as they are and there’s nothing you can do about it. If you believe that there’s no need or no room for improvement, you won’t improve. Why would you?
Nevertheless, studies show that a growth mindset is one of the top personality traits of successful people. The most successful people constantly improve, even when they’re on top; because there is no top. In addition to that, the organizations that constantly learn and improve are the ones that are winning in business.
The conclusion is therefore pretty simple. If you want to be successful in life, you need to grow, you need to evolve and you need to constantly improve. It’s one of the reasons why you’re here on this planet.
“I/We have always done it like that” is the most evil sentence ever.
Lack of time
Many times, people work so hard that they don’t even take the time to look around and analyze if they’re digging the right hole. Until it’s too late. A lack of time should never be an excuse for not brainstorming and implementing improvements. You always have to work smart as well.
Therefore, the AgileLeanLife Productivity Framework has three levels of planning – the strategic, tactical and operational level. You have to see the woods and you have to see all the trees. You must always take enough time to plan and make improvements in where you go and how you do things on all three levels.
There is a very simple test that shows your speed of improvement.How many things are you doing differently now than you did six months ago? If the answer is none and you’re only working hard the same way you did half a year ago, because you don’t have the time to improve your working methods, it’s time to change something.
If necessary, make sure that your first improvement is that you start dealing with improvements at all.
Firefighting and enjoying adrenalin rushes and dramas
People who are prone to deadline adrenaline rushes and dramas in relationships rarely take the time to stop and analyze how to improve. The frequent reason for that is the existence of an internal conflict. Improvements take away the drama, unproductive adrenaline rushes and other toxic behaviors. And you simply can’t focus on improvements if you need to feed your emotional monsters.
An important part of improving yourself is to become happier and more satisfied, productive, relaxed etc. Firefighting and playing a drama queen means going in the opposite direction. The solution is simple. If there is any kind of drama, anxiety and constantly chasing deadlines in your personal or company culture, it’s time to start improving fast.
Not to be too extreme, everyone finds themselves in such a situation from time to time, but if it’s a part of the culture or how a person operates and it happens more often than not, then that is big Anti-Kaizen behavior.
Lack of confidence in self and others and lack of courage
As I mentioned many times, it’s not easy to implement new changes, even if they are positive ones. We are all afraid of change on the biological level. Nevertheless, you simply need the courage to face your fears and start improving. The first step is to have more confidence in self and others.
Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. In the same way, doubt kills more improvements than failure ever will. Skepticism, cynicism, excessive sarcasm, drama, negativity, indecisiveness etc., they all kill creativity and potential for improvements. Believe in yourself and believe in people around you. There is nothing to doubt about, to be honest. Your growth and personal improvements (or the improvements of family or company culture) are the best possible investments.
To improve or not to improve?
You want to change others, not yourself
As cliché as it sounds, change always begins with you. First you have to understand (system, process, environment, relationships, history etc.), then you have to ignite the spark in yourself with a great vision and a powerful mission and only then change and adjust yourself to the right vibration in coherence with the system to start influencing other people and implementing change.
Implementing change is always a carefully and surgically orchestrated process that starts with changing yourself and adjusting your actions to face the least resistance from environmental forces.
Why do you have to change yourself first? Well, it’s easy to blame others. It’s easy to see flaws. It’s much harder to come up with good solutions. It’s even harder to analyze the system and pull the right moves to implement a change step by step in a very non-invasive way. Everyone wants to change the environment, shape it more to their liking, but nobody wants to change themselves first. But that’s the only place where the change really begins.
Before you can start implementing change, you have to find common ground with the environment and then build on it. To find the common ground, you have to first change yourself.
Getting in trouble for failing or pointing out the problems
If you judge others when they fail or make a mistake, you’re doing a very Anti-Kaizen thing. But there’s a catch. Usually people never openly criticize failure, of course. They do it with gossip, silence, sarcasm, mockery or some other type of intolerant emotional behavior. That kind of behavior means people get in trouble for failing and making mistakes.
A whole different thing is if you show curiosity for why something didn’t work, if you’re interested in what has been learnt and in the new ideas for how improvements could be made. Because Kaizen people have to feel emotionally secure and not be afraid to fail and make mistakes. You show people that it’s okay to fail with words and emotions.
Make sure people don’t get in trouble if they show you the problems or if they fail when trying something new. It means they care and that they have the willpower and probably many good additional ideas for what to try.
If you get in trouble for failing or showing the problems, explain to your boss what the Kaizen philosophy is and how it can help the organization. Try to find a way for moving the system towards the philosophy of constant improvement. But if it’s not worth your energy, if you don’t care enough, find a different system that will appreciate your ideas and suggestions, and vice-versa, a system where you will really care and have the power to test and implement new ideas.
Not following up on ideas
Ideas are a dime a dozen. Testing ideas and executing the best ones is pure gold. For implementing change, you simply have to be a doer, not only a talker. You must have a culture of immediate implementation and execution. Not following up on ideas is one of the most Anti-Kaizen things you can do besides having a victim mindset.
There are several reasons why there’s usually no follow up on ideas. Either the ideas are too complex or completely unreachable, or there are strong emotional issues that block the implementation. Going back to basic Kaizen rules and having an honest conversation is the best cure for a situation like that.
Giving up too quickly
Implementing change is no easy task. It not only takes motivation and creativity, but also a lot of patience and a long-term view.Changing the culture of an organization can take years, for example. In reality, implementing change is not very different from going on a diet. You have to work hard and make sacrifices now, for benefits that are far far away; while eating sweets gives you instant gratification and the punishment in excessive fat and bad health seems far away. That’s why it’s so hard to go on a diet.
The reason why it’s so hard to implement any change is the same. Because you have to put in the effort now for results and benefits you will enjoy sometime in the future. But if you stay in the status quo, you don’t have to put in any effort and the punishment comes sometime in the far-away future.
With time, the hard road becomes easy and the easy road becomes hard. So you must have a long-term view for every change you plan to implement. Never give up too quickly. Even when you lose motivation, remember that tomorrow is a new day to start over. And don’t overestimate what you can achieve in a few months and don’t underestimate what you can achieve in a few years.
Solving problems with additional administration
Many times, when we identify the root problem, additional administration in the process seems like the right solution; but in reality, it rarely is. If you take that kind of an approach, you can soon find yourself drowning in paperwork and everything becomes counterproductive. Never let additional administration be your best solution, you can always find better solutions than additional paperwork.
Let’s get back to a practical example of the 5 Whys technique and how it can help you focus on the process that was presented in the Kaizen rules for teams. It’s very simple: you describe the problem and start asking yourself “why”.
The vehicle will not start. (the problem)
Why? The battery is dead. (first why)
Why? The alternator is not functioning. (second why)
Why? The alternator belt has broken. (third why)
Why? – The alternator belt was well beyond its useful service life and not replaced. (fourth why)
Why? – The vehicle was not maintained according to the recommended service schedule. (fifth why, the root cause)
After the last “why” and discovering core problem, one of your first solution may be, let’s add a checklist or some other form of paper to the process. Or an engineer should sign dozens of forms on what s(he) has done, and so on. Many times, our initial ideas include additional bureaucracy, who knows why. But that’s rarely the right solution.
Hoping that others will do it for you or waiting for better times
An interesting thing can happen. When markets go up, they can solve many problems so you don’t have to improve at all. Or sometimes you get a rock star in your team who solves many of your problems and, again, you don’t have to improve. Sometimes a few problems die on their own. It can happen, problems can be magically solved without you making any improvements.
But hoping that others will implement changes and improvements instead of you, or waiting for better times that will take care of everything makes no sense at all. Because sooner or later, new challenges will come and afterwards, you may be in an even worse position. The main idea of improvements is that you become better and more competent and capable. You want to develop abilities to tackle problems better, provide more value, and so on. Inner assets or competence, if you want, are one of the most powerful securities you can have in life.
It’s also one of the reasons why you’re here on this planet. You don’t want to be deprived of the feeling of satisfaction when you win a battle with yourself and change to a better version of you. The feeling is awesome.
Jumping to solutions too quickly
Jumping to conclusions without any real proof is one of the cognitive distortions that happens to people very often. Jumping to solutions too quickly, without any testing, experimenting and measuring, is what often prevents real change to the better. It’s not that hard to come up with a solution or ideas for what to do. But it’s usually quite hard to come up with a solution that works and can be realistically implemented with sustainable effects.
You need a systematic and scientific approach to implementing improvements. You need to measure your progress. You need to use real data, not just your hunches and intuition. Just coming up quickly with a solution and thinking that you’ve done your job is definitely an Anti-Kaizen approach; after all, you’re breaking rule number one of not lying to yourself.
You must not wait for the perfect timing or the perfect solution when implementing improvements, but on the other hand, acting without thinking is damaging as well.
The key takeaway
The roots of Anti-Kaizen behavior lie in either the wrong mindset or toxic emotional behavior. Therefore, you have to deal with both of them – mindset and emotions. Rationally, you have to see constant improvement as the common sense you simply have to follow in order to achieve your peak performance. That’s usually the easy part of the equation.
The emotional part is much harder. But there is no other way than to work on more self-confidence, facing your fears with courage and dealing with laziness and procrastination or whatever holds you back from becoming the best version of yourself. Sometimes playing it safe is no different from being locked in a safe. Upgrade your mindset, face your fears and start improving yourself.
AgileLeanLife Framework is not only about implementing agile development and lean startup techniques into your personal life to increase productivity and be more successful. It’s also about other good business practices that can take your performance and quality of life to the next level. So let’s look at quite a popular technique from internet marketing that you can also use in different areas of your life. It’s called the Skyscraper technique.
The Skyscraper technique in content marketing suggests that you find a good piece of content from your competitor or somewhere else (the so-called linkable asset), you make it multiple times better and share it with the right people. It’s in human nature to be attracted to the best, and if you make a better piece of content, people will rush straight to your website.
It’s in human nature to be attracted to the best. So be the best in what you do.
Your content must really be multiple times better in order for the technique to work. You must create content so good and useful that people can’t help but share it, link it and recommend it to other people. You have to produce the best piece of content on a specific topic ever. You shouldn’t just copy, paste and improve a content slightly. You should take the content to a completely new level.
There are many ways how you can do that. You can make the content longer, more up-to-date, you can add videos, templates, checklists, you can design it better, you can make content more thorough or relevant. There are numerous options for taking the content to a completely new level.
After you prepare and publish your piece of content, you share it with people who already showed interest in the topic on other sites, where the content you decided to improve had been published. There’s a great chance people will be interested in your improved version, will use and share it. Because they already showed interest in the topic before. It’s simple math.
The main problem with the Skyscraper technique in internet marketing is that it works best if you already have an authority domain and a trusted site. It never gives very good results to newbies and they’re the ones who are often disappointed. Because you first need strong foundations and then a lot of persistence in order for the strategy to work. You can’t just build a skyscraper over night.
The Skyscraper idea in content marketing is not something new, it’s a very well-known technique ever since business world exists. Many people get their business idea by looking at some product or service and improving it somehow. There are so many ways for how to do it. You can make it bigger or smaller, faster or lighter, cheaper or based on a different business model, and so on.
If you’d like to start your own business, this may be a great way to start. Find a product or service that already works and brainstorm on how to take it to the next level. With all the competition today, making a product slightly better is rarely enough. You have to make it a gazillion times better. But if you can’t imagine something that doesn’t exist yet at all (usually disruptive technologies), this may be a good way to start.
The Skyscraper technique in your personal life
You can also use the Skyscraper technique in your personal life very well. The idea is pretty simple. You go straight for the best knowledge in a certain life area you want to improve. Thenby experimenting, trying, brainstorming, connecting new patterns, thinking outside the box and forgetting best practices (in the search mode), you make it several times better.
It’s not as easy as it sounds, of course. You have to set strong foundations first. You have to become extremely passionate about something. You have to brutally focus yourself and push through all the obstacles and C.R.A.P. – criticism, rejections, assholes and pressure. But this is how you make rapid improvements in life and level up your game. It may take years to build a skyscraper and you can do it only with a long-term view in mind.
This is how legacies are built. You find a drastically better way of doing something, implement it into your own life and share it with others. You make it a new standard on the market.
Look at the problems you have in life, the goals you want to achieve, the causes you want to fight for. Health, wealth, poverty, love, technology, internet content, you name it. There are so many problems in your personal life and in the world in general that you can solve way better than how they’re currently solved. Analyze and study all current solutions. Commit yourself to making a solution that’s a gazillion times better. Use every single brain cell to come up with the most creative solutions possible.
Well, you can also use the Skyscraper technique in a less revolutionary way. You can simply build an adjusted or updated solution for your own problems, systems and processes that work better for you personally and share it with other people. Who knows, maybe you’ll get the first follower, the second one, and then a little tribe that will use your own formula for success. It’s a total win-win, you will dramatically improve your life, help other people and maybe even get rich by sharing it.
Practical examples
Let’s look at a few practical examples.
Do you want to lose weight? Study the most popular dieting and exercising techniques, test them, find where the main problems are, find better solutions, implement them into your life and then share them with others (for money or not, as you wish).
Do you want to be an exceptional investor? Study all other successful investors, different investment strategies, find the things that work for you and meet you targeted ROI, and then teach others with the same or similar investing mindset how to do it. Or just enjoy your yields.
Do you want to have better relationships? Despite all the books on how to have a good partnership, an average relationship is still more of a relationsh*t. Sit down and agree with your spouse that you will analyze all the current recommendations, test them, invent new ones and make the best guideline for couples on how to effectively communicate. You will have a better relationship, you will have lots of fun and you can actually influence millions of people with your findings.
Do you want to start your own business? As already mentioned, think of all the products and services you could make a gazillion times better. Go to your garage and start prototyping. Start creating, testing, experimenting, talking to your potential customers and so on.
Are you pissed off after reading an article or a comment on the internet? Well, write a detailed and argumented analysis that will be eye-opening for people, and present a whole new different perspective on something. Much better than posting hateful comments.
Whatever you want to achieve, think of the current best practices and how things could be done better. In some cases a little better, in others a gazillion times better. Forget best practices. There’s no such thing as a good practice, only things to innovate and do better. And you have all the needed creative and mental capacity to do it better.
Whatever you want to achieve, study biographies, different strategies, talk to the smartest and most successful people, and then forget about best practices. Test, experiment, learn and find a gazillion better way to do something. Of course, you have to do it in a smart, scientific and systematic way. It’s not an easy task. But it’s a definitely a way and a mindset that can contribute a lot to your life and to the world.
Infostructure is a system and a process of how you consume, manage and share information. In the creative society, a quality infostructure has become as important as a quality infrastructure. What you feed your mind with matters a lot. A quality (good) infostructure will help you become more creative, competent and resourceful. A bad infostructure, on the other hand, is the biggest time waster ever, killing your creative potential, making you into an obedient consumer and a zombie – something that you definitely don’t want to become, but may happen if you don’t put any effort into building an outstanding infostructure for yourself.
What you will learn
In this post, you will learn about the following key things:
The difference between infrastructure and infostructure
Why infostructure is as important as infostructure in the creative economy
Why infostructure is like fire when it comes to technological advancement; nothing more than a tool with which you can either cook yourself dinner or burn yourself badly, depending on how you use it
How infostructure can lower the quality of your life by killing your creative potential, turning you into a consumer and a zombie
How bad infostructure can become the biggest time waster ever and how to avoid that
How you can build yourself an outstanding infostructure that will help you be incredibly more resourceful, creative and competent
How I built my own outstanding infostructure and how you can do it as well
Infrastructure vs. Infostructure
You probably know what infrastructure is and even if you don’t, you definitely use it all the time. Infrastructure are the basic physical and organizational structures and facilities needed for the operation of a society, be it a country, state, city, county or even enterprise. The main parts of an infrastructure are buildings, roads, power supplies, utilities, sanitary systems, and so on.
There’s definitely a big correlation between well-developed infrastructure and efficient productivity. Without sufficient infrastructure, the society is bogged down with higher operating costs, structural production problems and everyday frustrations, consequently suffering from a big competitive disadvantage, especially on the global markets. There’s no doubt that better infrastructure means a better quality of life, higher productivity and efficiency, and generally a better environment for business.
I’m sure you pay a lot of attention to where you live, how you organize your home and your office, what car you drive, how far away your favorite facilities, like shops, are etc. You definitely want to have electricity, water and other housing supplies all the time.
With all the loans, mortgages, rents, housing and transportation costs, you probably spend an extensive proportion of your paycheck for the infrastructure you use (your private and public part of the infrastructure). It’s logical that you do, because a better infrastructure brings a better quality of life, it helps you create more value for the markets, and so on. With a bigger paycheck, people often first invest into better infrastructure.
But we live in the creative economy and post-information age, where is not only infrastructure that’s important. In developed countries, adequate infrastructure is more or less taken care of. So infrastructure isn’t as important as it used to be for competitive advantage and success. You can see that very well in the business world. The best businesses don’t compete with better facilities, plants, equipment and manufacturing machines anymore. The best businesses today compete with creativity, innovation, intellectual property and new business models.
You’ve probably heard that Uber, the world’s largest taxi company, owns no vehicles. Facebook, the world’s most popular media owner, creates no content. Alibaba, the most valuable retailer, has no inventory. And Airbnb, the world’s largest accommodation provider, owns no real estate.
If the competitive advantage of a business can fall on the CEO’s toes, it’s not real competitive advantage in the creative economy.
In developed countries, you can rent infrastructure when you need it and as much of it as you need it. In some cases, all you need is a laptop and a good connection to the internet, and you can compete on the global markets. Don’t get me wrong. Infrastructure is very important. It’s hard to be creative if your toilet isn’t working, if it takes you hours to get to the office or if you’re freezing in your apartment. But in today’s world, creativity, innovation and information are as important, if not even more important, than outstanding infrastructure if you want to compete, create, deliver and capture (make money) as much value as possible.
What do I really mean by personal infostructure?
If in the contemporary creative economy, innovation and information are as important for creating value as infrastructure is, one of your key competitive advantages is a system and a process of how you consume, manage and share information. That’s your personal infostructure.
Infostructure is a system and a process of how you consume, manage and share information.
The main idea of a good infostructure is that you acquire as much knowledge as possible as quickly as possible. Knowledge is nevertheless an important part of your competence level. Knowledge means knowing a certain field. It means you have a complete set of information that you imprinted into your consciousness. And you can do things with it – you can create and deliver value. A good infostructure also helps you continuously acquire knowledge. It’s called life-long learning based on an informal education.
Even more. Good infostructure definitely contributes to your creativity. Creativity is nothing but the ability to perceive the world in new ways, find hidden patterns, make connections between seemingly unrelated phenomena, and generate solutions. With more information and knowledge, you can more easily connect the dots never before connected . The more right information and knowledge you have (depth, complexity, interdisciplinary …), the more creative and “aha” moments you can have in your life. Because you see connections others can’t see. Because they lack the same combination of knowledge.
Knowledge is power, there’s no doubt about it (actually, applying knowledge is power, but more about that later). Good infostructure means more knowledge, and more knowledge means more power. That’s why you should pay a lot of attention to your personal infostructure if you want to be successful in life. Good infrastructure as part of the outer assets (money, status etc.) is simply not enough anymore. You also need lots of inner assets (competences), and a superior infostructure can help you with that.
But there’s one big trick regarding infostructure. The society (with market demand) has already built one for you; much like it has also built most of the infrastructure. With one big difference, which is that the purpose of the public infostructure is to program you into an obedient and stupid consumer. That’s why I call it bad infostructure, the one you’re pushed into by default.
Bad personal infostructure
As I mentioned, bad infostructure is unfortunately the one that society has already built for you. More than 99 % of people probably use this default infostructure regularly, which consequently heavily contributes towards to living unhappy, average or even zombie lives. If you do what other people do, you get what other people have; and that’s usually an average life. And you don’t want that. So what is the default bad infostructure that society has built for you? Well, there are a few core media used in the default infostructure that are programing you into an obedient consumer. In addition to that, they more or less help you only with mental masturbation and are big time wasters. Here they are:
Television and radio
TV is nothing but a “multimedia ad player”, since you more or less only watch ads that are programming you into a good consumer. The content is usually no better than ads. Reality shows, watching other people play sports, watching people who live the life you probably want to live, be it the leading superheroes in a movie, saving the world, or the main actors themselves having fun filming and making millions. You’re obviously on the wrong side of the screen.
Here’s another trap. Maybe you haven’t turned on the TV for decades and you can tell yourself that you don’t watch it. But on the other hand, you still watch movies and TV shows, just not on the TV. We know video on demand now, we have Netflix, iTunes etc. Or you can even go to the movie theater too often. So you don’t have to sit in front of the TV to watch “TV”.
It’s pretty much the same with channels like Discovery, History and other “educational” channels or even MTV. They play nothing but semi-reality or reality TV shows. You either watch other people travelling, cooking, exploring or doing other amazing things or, on the other hand, you watch them get humiliated in front of a few judges and thousands of people so you can feel a little bit better about yourself. No thanks.
Don’t get me wrong. A good movie or an episode of a TV show can be very relaxing from time to time. And we all need some relaxation; we aren’t robots. But spending hours and hours in front of the TV watching commercials is definitely not the life you want to live. Wake up.
Radio is not much different from TV. You listen to thousands and thousands of commercials and stupid talk shows. You maybe hear a song you like once a day, after listening to hours of useless content. On the main radio stations, you can listen to the same bad news every half hour (it’s like it’s really programing you to be negative), and most interviews and discussions have zero valuable content and are only there to entertain the masses. I don’t remember the last time I heard something useful on the radio. And if you want to listen to music, you have iTunes and other music streaming services.
News (print, online) and most magazines
The daily news gives you a sense of connection with the world as well as a sense of urgency and importance. You feel like you’re in the flow of global happenings. In addition to that, we’re all prone to drama in life, from the evolutionary point of view. Drama and negative information raise your adrenalin levels and make you feel more alive. They make you feel like you’re running from a virtual tiger. Something important is happening, you better pay attention. Not. Most news pieces are negative because your mind loves negative information. You don’t want to fill your mind with negative information. It will only bring the negative into your life.
You can’t live a positive life, with a negative mind. You can’t have positive mind if you constantly consume negative information.
Additionally, news is history. It already happened. You have zero influence on that. And everybody reads it, so it brings zero competitive advantage into your life. Even if you spend hours and hours catching up on tech news, startup news or whatever, the value added of that kind of information is really low. If you want to co-create the future, you need to empty your mind, make some creative free time, read some heavily useful stuff or level up your skills and focus on your goals. Only your goals, nothing else. No drama.
The good thing (somehow, I guess) is that you don’t have to worry at all: even if you unsubscribe yourself from all the news, the most “important” (the most negative or shocking) news will definitely reach you sooner or later. Because everybody shares it, 99 % of people are little beacons of negative information.
Social networks
Social networks have become an important part of our lives. People spend hours and hours on social networks. For most people, it’s extremely hard to escape from being on the most popular social networks. This means at least Facebook and Twitter, but I can probably also add Tumblr, Pinterest, Instagram and many others to the list. It won’t get any better in the future. There will be even more websites fighting for your time and attention.
Now ask yourself honestly, will hours and hours of looking at pictures of what your friends and acquaintances are doing really help you progress in life? Definitely not. And to be realistic, Facebook and other social networks aren’t even close to showing the real lives that people are living. People are only posting beautiful moments, the few peaks they get in their lives. Behind these beautiful moments, every human being must face challenges, disappointments, struggles and other burdens.
At the end of the day, looking at the good moments of your Facebook friends makes you feel like you’re the only weirdo who doesn’t enjoy life to the full. Not a perception you want to program your mind with. And a big distraction from your own goals.
Pub debates
An important source of information for everyone are also their friends. That’s why social networks are so popular. Because people love to “stalk” other people and they’re so interested in what other people are thinking or doing. The same mental masturbation effect often also happens in real life, especially in pubs, coffee shops and similar locations. People love talking about politics, big world problems and negative events, and we can also add gossiping, criticizing, whining and complaining to the list.
A debate among a group of friends is rarely about brainstorming new ideas, challenging beliefs, pushing each other to the next level, looking for positives in life, and so on. I see that only among really successful people who sit at the same table, without any bozos present.People you spend time with are an extremely important source of your information and therefore also an important source of your motivation and creativity. You can’t live a positive life with a negative mind. In the same way, you can’t live a positive life being surrounded by negative people and participating in stupid pub debates.
Numerous trashy internet sites
Like every technology, internet has brought a lot of good, but also a few bad things into our lives. Just to mention a few good ones: internet has enabled us higher productivity, faster access to quality information, new ways of communication, and so on. The bad, on the other hand, is especially the fact that internet also gave everyone very easy access to shitty content and shitty information. With a single click. People are spending hours and hours on the internet browsing stupid internet sites.
From watching porn, arguing on forums, posting hateful comments and reading tabloids to watching “funny” vines, browsing through thousands of social network statuses, and so on. Well, at the end of the day, most people consume on the internet what they used to consume only with TV, daily news, magazines, gaming consoles and pub debates. Now with the internet, everything is intensified and accelerated.
You simply don’t want to have that kind of an infostructure in your life. Much like you want your toilet to work in your home, have nice roads without holes and bumps when you drive to your job, like you want lights in your office when it gets dark and a nice working car, why wouldn’t you want to get the same from the infostructure that feeds your mind and consequently also defines your quality of life, happiness level, competence level and potential?
It doesn’t make any sense to fight for outstanding infrastructure and not pay any attention to your infostructure.
Outstanding personal infostructure
Now we know what the bad default infostructure that society has built for you looks like and how it influences your life. Something that 99 % of people use and something that’s very hard to avoid in everyday life. Why? Because people like it (demand) and everybody profits from you using the default bad infostructure. Producers, advertising companies, media houses, even your country and your neighbors (so they don’t have to be envious), everybody profits. Except you.
Therefore, you have to put an enormous amount of energy, will and self-discipline into changing the default infostructure to a better one and regularly using it. The good news is that people have also built and created the good part of the infostructure, available to you with one click. Unfortunately, the masses just don’t use it as much as they use the mainstream media, so it takes a little bit more effort to surround yourself with the right content. That’s the beauty of today’s world: you have choices and you have the power to decide what you’ll consume. Fast food or quality stuff.
To be fair, there are temptations every hour of every day, fighting for your time, attention and money, trying to make you to go back to the default bad infostructure. But you have to be strong. You have to make the right choices most of the time (let’s say 95 %). You can never completely run away from a bad infostructure (there’s always a movie or a TV show you really can’t miss). But you can definitely build yourself an outstanding system for consuming and managing information that will help you achieve your goals and become the best version of yourself.
Here’s how your infrastructure should look like:
Books and carefully selected blogs and magazines
By far the best text source of knowledge and information are still books. You should read at least one book per month. Even better if you read one book per week. Some people read one book per day. You can take a speed-reading course and join a “one book per day” club. I should do that. An average person spends hours in front of the TV every day. Imagine if all that time were spent on reading top books.
I guarantee that if you read a quality book per day, then you will definitely become a lean, mean, creative knowledge machine in a year. And it never takes a year to get obsessed with reading. In a few months of regular reading habits, you’ll automatically start reading a book every time someone in the family turns on the TV, simply because you’ll see and experience all the benefits of reading.
What about other reading material? Well, the general rule is that you acquire a lot more useful knowledge by reading a quality book than by reading dozens of blog posts. Nevertheless, some blogs are pure gold (like this one :). You should find those rare ones and follow them. The same goes for magazines. You can find magazines of really high quality in some industries and for some topics, while for others not so much.
Always follow the rule to go for the best (knowledge) and forget the rest.
Before you buy a book and start reading it, check the reviews and the table of contents. Make sure the book is really something that will help you advance in life. Maybe you can read a summary of the book and then decide. The idea is that by reading a book, you “download” an upgraded software version of a specific topic to your brain. You must get creative ideas and learn new and better ways of doing things in life. And then do them. Apply them. Only reading will probably only bring you better language skills.
Audiobooks and carefully selected podcasts
We all have very busy schedules. Consequently, it’s often hard to find the time to sit down and read in peace. Well, if you really want it, you can make it. Anyhow, audiobooks are also a good way to accelerate your learning. You can listen to audiobooks when you drive, wait in queues or take a walk. You can simply buy and download audiobooks to your smart phone, and listen to them when the opportunity pops up. There are more and more audiobooks available, no matter the topic you want to listen to and get educated about.
Much like the comparison of books and blogs, the same goes for podcasts compared to audiobooks. There are only a few podcasts that are really good and useful. The reason for that is probably the fact that most podcasts are free. And as we said, because people love to consume useless information (demand), other people (producers) are producing tons of useless content (because as a producer, you have to listen to the markets). Therefore, you have to put in the effort and break through all the bad content in order to find the best one.
MOOCs and educational videos
Massive online open courses have become an extremely important source of learning for successful people. The good news is that you can find many quality courses, even from the best universities like Harvard, MIT and the best worldwide experts from many industries and life areas. You can follow the selected material at your own pace, you’re usually connected online with a group of peers who try to acquire the same knowledge as you, and so on. In short, it’s a great way to learn from the best.
The bad news is that the majority of people who subscribe to MOOCs never really take and finish the course. They only subscribe and participate in a lecture or two at the most. Some research shows that only around 2 % finish the courses they subscribe to. Well, to be honest, it’s not easy to finish an online course. It takes effort, self-discipline, motivation, there’s no teacher to motivate you etc. It’s much easier to turn on the TV and watch a reality show than to listen to an open course. But those 2 % are the ones who do advance in life while other people stagnate. It’s what separates successful people from average ones. You have to decide for yourself. The trick is that the hard road becomes easy with time and the easy road becomes hard.
Besides MOOCs, you can find many motivating and educational videos online. When you have only 20 minutes to do something useful or when you’re waiting at the doctors, you can plug in your earphones and watch a talk online that will help you with your goals and progress in life. There’s so much useful content online, you just have to put in the effort to find it and avoid all the crap.
Seminars, lectures and carefully selected conferences
An important part of your infostructure should also be seminars, lectures and a few carefully selected conferences that you visit as an individual as well as for business purposes (you should only work for a company that’s prepared to invest into your knowledge). Sometimes even advancing in formal education makes sense. The main problem with previously mentioned MOOCs is that you can get bored easily, especially if you’re not an introvert. Being in a group of people with the same goal and with dates and times set in advance in the real, not virtual, life helps a lot with motivation and self-discipline. And you can make new business and personal connections more easily.
This is why you should make offline seminars and lectures an important part of your infostructure, especially if you encounter problems with self-discipline behind a computer. Conferences can also be useful sometimes, but more or less for motivational purposes, networking and having fun. If you go to too many conferences, you often start wasting your precious time. Here’s why.
A mastermind group and a mentor
The most important part of your infostructure should be your mastermind group and your mentor(s). Your mastermind group are all the people you ask for advice and go for important information from your industry, about life, and so on.
Your mastermind group are your trusted coworkers, hopefully your boss, your ambitious and educated friends as well as the best lawyers, doctors and consultants you can still afford. People that help you grow, progress and advance in life.
Part of your infostructure system should also be your personal mentor. You should always have a personal mentor. Someone who pushes you, helps you to focus, does introductions to help you expand your professional network and directs you to the right information resources. Instead of gossiping in the pub and complaining about life, brainstorming about your next move in life with the right mentor could change your life forever.
Group discussions (online and offline)
Besides all the hateful comments on the internet and useless forum arguments, there’s also a positive side to group discussions. You can find many useful forums and communities online and offline. They should be an important part of your infostructure.
We love to belong and being part of a community enhances your desire and discipline to learn and acquire new knowledge. Therefore, online forums and offline meet-ups can be a great way to learn and to meet new people with the same interests as you. Again, you have to very carefully select where to join and where to invest your energy. If the quality of information starts to decline, you shouldn’t have any emotional problems finding new better groups.
Other resources
There are, of course, many extremely useful internet sites, eBooks and other resources you can find online (and offline) with only a few clicks. If you have high enough standards for what kind of content to consume, you’ll be fine. Just remember that you become what you consume. So go for the best and forget the rest.
The process of consuming information
The sources (specific media) where you go get information and how you get it (type of media) is a system you set as part of your infostructure. As already mentioned, even if you don’t build your own system consciously, your environment (family, society etc.) has built a system for you. The other part of the equation is when, how often and for how long you consume information as well as how you manage what you’ve read. It’s called the process, and the purpose of the process is to help you with self-discipline and to stay away from the default bad infostructure.
Here are the general recommendations for the process (and also system) you should set for yourself for acquiring and managing knowledge:
Go for the best (knowledge), forget the rest. Carefully chose what you consume. Help yourself with reviews, summaries etc. before you really bite into anything. Sometimes the best knowledge is a best-seller book, other times a blog post you find after hours of browsing.
Especially consume information that you can apply to your life and then apply it. At the end of the day, knowledge is not power. Applying knowledge is. When reading material, you should get new creative ideas or ideas for how to do things differently.
If possible, do a mind map or structure the new acquired knowledge in some other way after reading specific material. Connect the new acquired knowledge with what you already know. Write down the best new ideas from the material and try to come up with your own new ideas.
If you start reading something and you figure out it has no value for you (nothing new), stop reading it. It sounds funny but for most of people, it’s not an easy thing to do. We have the natural psychological tendency to finish what we start. For example, you rarely leave a theater, even if the movie sucks. Don’t do that. If the material sucks, move on. Don’t move on because a page loads for a second longer than you expected, but because of the bad quality.
Don’t read the material you already know. People have a tendency to read the stuff they already know over and over again. Because it’s easier. Don’t do that. The exception is if you’re refreshing your knowledge or revising material.
Read materials from very different areas you’re interested in and try to combine the knowledge in new ways. That’s called creativity. Don’t consume material only from one topic or industry. Be a curious human.
Try to structure the most important knowledge you have in your own presentations, blog posts, lectures etc. Teaching others is a great way to reinforce and structure the knowledge you possess.
Consume more difficult subjects when you’re well rested and lighter material when you’re already tired. You have to push yourself, but don’t push yourself over the limit. An important part of acquiring knowledge is that you enjoy it.
Read something positive and motivational the first thing when you wake up.
Don’t go to sleep if you haven’t read at least one page that day.
Read for at least one hour per day.
Read at least one book per month.
Take at least one day per month only to upgrade your competences. Mark a no-interruptions day in your calendar and focus just on learning.
Go to one educational seminar or do one MOOC at least once every six months.
Go to one motivational conference at least once a year, especially for motivational purposes.
A good way to learn is while you earn. Your work should always be slightly more demanding than your skills, so you have to learn while you work. Also make sure to work at a company that’s prepared to invest in your knowledge, if you aren’t your own boss.
Limit mental masturbation (consuming useless content, social networking etc.) to 5 hours per week at the most.
Sharing is caring. Share and spread good information. People desperately need it.
Well, reading can also mean watching, listening or participating in a group discussion.
Sharing information
An important part of infostructure is also sharing information, not only consuming it. The first rule is that you should produce only quality content. The world is already polluted enough with shitty content. So no hateful comments, no gossiping and talking about reality shows.
You should become a human beacon of positive and quality information and knowledge.
The second rule is that sharing is caring. If it’s not exactly a trade secret, you should share quality information with people. There’s this karma rule regarding knowledge. The more knowledge you share, the more knowledge you get. But also don’t have any constraints to charge for your knowledge.
You should be aware that in the information age, you share information and content all the time, with every move you make behind your computer and, of course, every time you open your mouth. Every e‑mail, every social media update, every blog comment and content recommendation is part of your infostructure. Much like you should be very careful about the content you consume, so you should carefully watch what you share
At the end of the day, what comes out of your mouth is more or less determined by what goes into your mind.
Practical example
My personal infostructure
Now let’s get on the practical level. Let’s look at my own personal infostructure, the system of how I get information and how I handle it. First of all, I follow the asset-light living philosophy, so I have everything digitalized and own no physical books, magazines, CDs or any other material (except an exercise book for language learning). An important part of my infostructure are also my digital brains.
I buy books on Amazon. I have a Kindle eReader and a Kindle app on my smartphone, tablet and PC. I try to read at least one book per week. Books are my primary source of acquiring new knowledge. The only magazine I read is the Harvard Business Review.
Before I buy a book, I read the summary. I use Blinkist for book summaries and, from the bottom of my heart, I can say that it’s a really awesome app. If I like the summary, I buy and read the book. Next to that, I try to read at least one book summary per day. I read books/summaries at every opportunity I have. When I wake up, before I go to sleep, when I wait in lines, when I have a few minutes to waste, I open the Kindle app or Blinkist and I start reading.
My favorite apps
I use Feedly as a RSS app for the few blogs I’m subscribed to. I used to be subscribed to more than 100 blogs but I felt overloaded. Now I’m subscribed only to a few really good blogs from different niches (startups, internet marketing, personal development, productivity …). To be honest, I often run out of time to read the blog posts and I don’t put pressure on myself to read all the blog posts. I have no problem with having many unread blog posts as long as I read books on a daily basis. I used to be a big fan of reading apps, like Flipboard, etc., but now they’re more or less no different from reading the daily news. So again, I go back to books.
I use Audible for audiobooks. I listen to audiobooks when I walk, wait in a queue and sometimes when I’m driving (if I’m well rested). I also listen to audiobooks when I’m doing the dishes and other chores. I don’t really listen to podcasts, except to Tai Lopez sometimes (or similar authors).
MOOCs are an important part of my infostructure. I regularly buy courses on Udemy. I’m subscribed to Lynda, Threehouse and Tutsplus, especially now when I’m leveling up my IT competences. As a source of motivational talks, I watch TED Talks from time to time.
I don’t watch TV at all. I don’t listen to the radio. I don’t read the daily news. I don’t participate in useless debates. And I don’t visit useless internet sites. I do watch TV shows from time to time, but with an upper limit of 3 hours per week (except when I’m ill and can’t do anything else than stare at either a TV screen or a wall). I’ve turned my social networks into a source of quality content. I do visit 9gag from time to time. That’s my weak point, I guess. When in any kind of dilemma, my philosophy is to go back to quality books. An even more important part of my philosophy is to apply the acquired knowledge and experience it for myself.
Did you promise to yourself that you’ll eat healthy, but you just stuffed your face with pizza and sweets? Did you commit to being more careful with your money, but you’ve just wasted some of your money on something useless? Are you trying to become a better spouse, but you weren’t attentive enough to your partner throughout the day?
Don’t guilt trip yourself. You can’t change your past. What’s done is done. Forgive yourself, ask for forgiveness if necessary, and move on. We’re all human and discipline is a weak muscle that sometimes doesn’t hold up under pressure. If you have a daily goal and you miss it some days, don’t think over and over again how could your discipline slackened and how weak of a person you are.
Instead focus on tomorrow. Tomorrow is a new beginning, a new day to start over. Every day when you wake up, you have a new chance to prove yourself, follow your goals and invest into yourself to enjoy the compounding effects of yield in the future. Rather than blaming yourself, be aware that tomorrow is a new day and a new opportunity. And so is the day after tomorrow. Every day, you start at zero and you build up from there.
Even more. Your every next decision is an opportunity to practice self-discipline and correct your mistakes.If you’ve eaten too much over lunch, say no to dinner or do extra training. If you were wasteful with money, save money on your next purchase. If you’ve just figured out you weren’t attentive enough to your partner, pick up your phone and send a loving message or kiss your spouse or whatever.
Trust me, you’ll make mistakes even when committed to your goals. You can’t be 100 % disciplined all the time; and you will feel guilty when you slip. The more disciplined you are, the more guilt you’ll probably feel. But that’s wrong. That means becoming a bitter and mechanic robot in the long term. Be disciplined, but when your discipline muscle gives out, don’t hinder yourself additionally with guilt, blame and overthinking. Forgive yourself, forget it, move on and fix it with your next decision or start from scratch the next day when you wake up.
Every day is a new beginning, every day is a new opportunity for you to start following your life vision. Just don’t make things harder than they already are. Enjoy life.
If your body gets hurt, you feel physical pain. One of the roles of physical pain is to tell you what not to do, for example to not hit your head against the wall over and over again or play with fire. Besides having many other functions, emotions can also play a pretty similar role. They can tell you whether you’re on the right path, if you’re following your life vision and what your whys are (even if your emotions are repressed and you aren’t even aware of them) or if you’re going against yourself, marching in the wrong direction and being in the wrong environment with the wrong people.
The compass is simple. A longer period of positive emotions shows that you’re going in the right direction, while negative emotions (anger, dissatisfaction, sadness…) warn you that you aren’t on the right path; negative feelings could be a signpost that you aren’t on the path that’s meant for you. If you are accompanied by constant negative emotions, it means that your soul is suffering.
Just as a reminder, being on the wrong path is one of the options why you are experiencing negative feelings, but there may be many other potential reasons. You must carefully analyze yourself and find out what the real source of your negative feelings is. For example, besides being on the wrong path, cognitive distortions can also cause you to have constant negative feelings. You may be on the right path and just think too negative. But now let’s get back to being on the wrong path.
The good news is that your emotions sense something is wrong and that you aren’t going in the right direction way before you can arrive at the same conclusion with your rational and analytical mind. It’s called instinct. Something either feels right or it doesn’t. If it doesn’t feel right and you still do it, you usually go against yourself and bring misery and unhappiness into your life. Therefore, your emotions are a great predictor of your future and your quality of life.
If you know you aren’t with the right person, but you still stay in a relationship just because you’re afraid to be alone, you’re going to be miserable.
If you sense that your bosses aren’t running the company professionally and that it’s just a matter of time before things go south, but still don’t do anything about it (search for a new job), you’re going to feel miserable.
If you’re driving in a car with a lunatic and you don’t have control, you won’t feel good because you feel that there’s a great probability that something dangerous will happen. But in real life, you have control in the most of situations if you only listen to your emotions, are aware of your personal power and you act.
Happiness Index, Source: Agile trail
Happiness and productivity
If you’re happy, you’re more productive (some studies show you’re around 12 % more productive), you’re more optimistic and have higher level of motivation, you nurture relationships better at home and at work, and you have no problems with expressing gratitude, you are more innovative and creative. You can also enter the workflow without distractions more easily and are more committed to your goals. You also help to create better working or home environments. Nevertheless, there are several issues we have to address, because things aren’t that simple.
First of all, we all love to ignore our emotions and what we really want. Maybe you’re afraid, maybe you’re clinging to safety, maybe you aren’t aware of your personal power, maybe something else. But if we take one step back, you most often aren’t even consciously aware of how you feel throughout the day, you don’t pay much attention to your emotions, you just get mad at your spouse or a coworker, or become grumpy in a traffic jam or whatever, but you don’t ask yourself why; in that case, you unfortunately don’t live, you only exist. You may even be a zombie. So the first important rule is to regularly and systematically monitor your emotions and become aware of them. Then ask yourself why.
The second thing is that there are three areas for monitoring your emotions. One is your home environment. If you don’t have loving and caring personal relationships and don’t feel home at home, you can’t feel happy in life. Home should be like your temple of positive energy, emotional security and deep relationship bonds with people you love the most.
Then we have the working environment. You spend one third of your life at work, so you must have good relationships there (do you have a best friend at work?), you must do meaningful work and fit into the company culture. You can’t be happy in life if you hate your job.
Last but not least, you’re here to grow and enjoy life. You can’t be happy if you aren’t progressing from your real to your ideal self and if you aren’t enjoying life in the moment (while having realistic expectations). The bottom line is that you have to monitor your emotions in all three areas, and if one area is suffering, all areas are suffering.
Your home environment
Your work environment
You
And the third thing is that our emotions are complicated. They aren’t so easy to understand. If you decide to pay attention to your emotions, you’ll have to spend a lot of time dealing with self-analysisand how to live a life honest and true to yourself.It may seem that everything is in order in your life, but you may be totally unhappy and not even aware of it. When you decide to really pay attention to your emotions, you must start living life with courage and full of love towards yourself and others, and always be truthful to yourself. No dishonesty. It’s hard work but it pays off.
Even if our emotions are complicated, there are two simple exercises you can do every day, as the first steps towards better understanding yourself and how you feel – they’re called the happiness index and the happiness chart.
The happiness chart
There’s a really simple method of monitoring your emotions and doing basic emotional accounting. It’s called the happiness chart. The main advantage/point of the happiness chart is to never forget about yourself or lose awareness of how you’re really feeling, even if you’re very busy. You put yourself first. Many times, if you aren’t super happy, angry, depressed or feeling some other extreme emotion, you just go through the day like you’re used to. Some people smile because they’re used to it, some people are grumpy all day because they’re used to it, and so on. You wear a social mask out of habit. But you never know what you’re really feeling and why. That’s existing, not living; that’s being a zombie.
With the happiness chart you will:
Always be aware of your emotions
Have early alerts for things are going in the wrong direction
Easily communicate your emotions with others (spouse, team etc.)
Have a basis for further analyzing your emotions further
Link your happiness level to your productivity level and see how happiness influences your day
Happiness Index Calendar, Source: Agile Trail
The idea is pretty simple. You have an uncomplicated chart with different indicators showing how happy you are. Every day, when you wake up, go to sleep or while working, you put an indicator on the chart, marking how you’re feeling.
You have three charts on which you indicate the happiness level every day:
Me (that you share with yourself)
Intimate relationship (that you share with your spouse)
Work (that you share with your team)
It makes sense to engage other people to use the happiness chart, of course. For example, you also ask your spouse to mark their level of happiness on the chart and when the mark from you or your spouse goes below a certain level, it’s time to talk and communicate more intensively about what’s going in the wrong direction and why.
After marking your happiness level on the happiness chart, you should ask yourself four questions:
Mark how happy you are (at home, in a relationship, at work etc.) on a scale from 1 to 10. Why the x number? Watch out that you aren’t always in the average (5, 6, 7, 8). If you are, use only 1, 2, 3 and 9, 10 as a scale. Because you’re either happy or you aren’t. You can even simplify it with three smiley symbols: :) , :| and :(
What feels right at the moment?
What feels the worst or wrong right now?
What should I do to increase my happiness?
When you have your answers to all four questions that should be enough material to do a retrospection (maybe at the end of the week or your sprint), where you answer three additional questions:
What should I start doing in my life?
What should I stop doing in my life?
What should I continue doing in my life?
The most important thing while using the happiness index and the happiness chart is to be really honest and true to yourself. If you’re lying to yourself about your feelings, you repress them and ignore them. But they’re like an evil monster that starts growing if you ignore it. The evil monster keeps growing in you and will come back in times and places you least expect (you start destroying your relationships, become depressed etc.). Therefore kill the monster while it’s still small. The happiness chart will be the first to tell you when a small monster is born. Pay attention to your emotions, because they matter the most!