environment you operate in

  • How to analyze the environment to make sure trends and people are working in your favor

    The environment you operate in greatly determines how successful and happy you will be. The right environment is like a leverage or accelerator that helps you achieve your goals faster and more easily. Your environment also greatly influences how you think, talk, and act.

    That means your agency and potential are determined by (1) your personality and (2) the environment in which you find yourself. There are two important parts of the agency equation and you must pay attention to both.

    An integral part of self-improvement is thus building yourself the right environment. I call it a motivational environment.

    An environment with many opportunities, where you can thrive by employing all your talents and where you can get promoted for good work done; an environment that encourages you and pushes you to constantly improve and grow, but also offers support, empathy and safety nets.

    I know that motivational environments are rare, but they do exist or you can help build (yourself and others) one. You must never forget the power of the environment when you are making decisions in life.

    Nobody can succeed alone

    You can be a Superman, but if you operate in the wrong environment, your stamina sooner or later gets spent, your spirit demoralized and your ambitions stifled. Nobody can succeed alone, we all need strong support from the right kind of people, an encouraging culture, and positive market trends.

    Where you currently are = Your starting point + Your character + Your environment

    In most cases, the environments are the ones that choose people. Unfortunately, when people don’t consciously build the right environment for themselves, they usually get stuck in the wrong ones. Don’t let that happen to you.

    You can choose or, to be more exact, build yourself the right kind of environment. You have enough personal power to do that, at least to a certain extent. Choosing the right environment for yourself equals being proactive, working in a smart way and having a superior life strategy.

    In this blog post, you will learn how to analyze the environment to make sure people and trends are working in your favor and that they aren’t hindering your potential. You will learn how to analyze the environment you operate in and to act – to consciously choose the right environment for yourself, not just accidentally find yourself in the wrong one.

    Why the environment matters so much?

    I operated in the best environments (elite high school, startup accelerators etc.) and very bad ones (almost a ghetto where I was raised in the 90s, government organizations, broken family etc.). For me as a highly sensitive person, it immediately became obvious how big of an impact an environment has.

    Being in a bad neighborhood is like being a healthy apple among rotten apples. You sooner or later start rotting, even if you aren’t aware of it. On the other hand, being in a good neighborhood is like being a green tomato among the juicy red ones.

    Sooner or later, you too become ripe and you thrive. There are exceptions, of course, but the general rule is that you become who and where you spend the most of your time.

    Here are the main reasons why the environment is so important:

    1. The environment has a great influence on your values and behavior
    2. In the right kind of environment, there are many opportunities you can undertake
    3. There is more room for collaboration and less need for competition when trends are supporting you (and all the other entities)
    4. Positive trends work like accelerators that enable you to reach your goals faster
    5. In the end, the environment greatly determines the quality of your life

    Firstly, the environment greatly influences your values and behaviors. In my career, I collaborated with hundreds of companies and there was always the same pattern.

    In poorly performing companies with bad culture, people were gossiping, fighting and spreading negative energy instead of being productive and innovative. People who wanted to do good were suffering and newcomers didn’t last a few weeks before they were drawn into fights, manipulations and injustice.

    In contrast, a relatively healthy environment encourages collaboration, innovation and transparency. The vibe in the office is positive, people are smiling, even if working hard. If everyone is helping you improve and progress, you start to help others sooner or later.

    If everybody is contributing ideas and isn’t being judged for the bad ones, you gather the courage to start contributing ideas sooner or later. That’s why Steve Jobs has a no bozo rule in the company and decided to work exclusively with A-people.

    It’s the same with families. If a family is toxic, everyone develops their own (toxic) survival mechanism (heroes, mascots, scapegoats, distant person etc.). The energies with which the toxic family operates are dishonesty, shame, guilt, control, ignorance and other manipulations. It’s impossible to be emotionally well in such an environment.

    There is no perfect environment, there are frictions in every single one of them, but there is a limit when an environment becomes toxic. In healthy families, empathy, love, tolerance and encouragements are in the first place.

    Then there are opportunities. If there are no opportunities, people are forced to brutally compete, or in the worst case even slaughter each other (wars). When markets go down, when there are no jobs and bank accounts are empty, people must fight.

    In such environments, you are forced to forget about values, integrity and collaboration, and take care of your own survival. Few people are capable of collaboration, empathy and support in such brutal circumstances.

    On the other hand, when markets are booming, you are exposed to many business opportunities and that is the strongest possible safety net. When you take care of your basic safety and financial needs, you can then finally climb much higher on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

    You can invest your mind and energy into collaboration, self-actualization, love, belonging and recognition. Markets are fluid, they go up and down, but you can absolutely make sure that they work in your favor, that they don’t kick you off the pyramid to the bottom. Never ignore what’s happening to markets, because markets always win.

    Finally, the environment can work either like a big accelerator or a repressor. Two people with the same level of competence on different markets have completely different potential. A person on the right market has the potential to become a millionaire and a person on the wrong market can get nothing but gray hair in a few months.

    As you can see, the environment is half of the equation for how quality your life will be, if not even more. One part of the equation is working on yourself (personal development and constant improvement), the other part is finding yourself in the right environment. Your environment determines your potential as much as you determine it with your own personal power.

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    Elements of the environment that greatly influence your life

    There are two important elements of every environment – people and trends. People represent everything from general culture in your country, office or home to individuals you work with or interact with on a daily basis. They all have a great influence on your life. People can make your life on Earth heaven or hell.

    The second element of the environment are trends (together with how good the current situation is). There are many different trends that influence your life, from political and economic trends to social and technological ones.

    We can also add legal and environmental factors to the list. Economic trends are usually the most important, because when the economy collapses, it drags everything else down with it. Trends can be positive or negative.

    When I talk about trends, there are really two important factors – the current situation and the outlook. Not to make things too complicated I call it “trends” with one word. Why?

    After travelling to 50 countries, what I’ve noticed is that in less developed countries if trends were positive, people were generally more satisfied than those in more developed countries that were losing their competitive advantage.

    The state of every environment is important, but the outlook matters even more in many cases; because the outlook is the one that kills or encourages hope.

    Now let’s move on. People and trends are the basic compounds of every environment. They both influence every individual in two different habitats where we all operate:

    • Personal environment, together with home, spouse, family and friends
    • Business environment, together with office, co-workers and stakeholders

    All four variables are highly connected (people, trends, personal, business). If you are unhappy at your job, you usually spread the misery in your home environment. If you have a lot of support at home, you can show support to other people at your job. If you don’t earn enough money in the business environment, it greatly influences the quality of your personal life and your family.

    That means you must mind all four variables – people in your personal and business environment, and different new paradigms that are coming in sight in both habitats. If you miss one disruptive change or disruptive person that comes into your business or personal life, you can quickly get tripped up and everything collapses. It’s not about being paranoid. It’s about being prepared, smart and keeping your eyes open.

    Knowing all four categories, let’s microscopically break down the elements of the environment that influence your life. That will be the basic framework for our analysis. As I mentioned, every element influences your personal and business life, since everything is interconnected, but usually it has more influence in one single area.

    Personal Both Business
    Spouse Country culture Boss
    Primary family Political status and trends Coworkers
    Secondary family Economic status and trends Mentors
    Friends Legal system Stakeholders
    Social trends Infrastructure Company culture
    Environmental trends Weather and climate Technology trends
    Home location & neighbors Social security Office location
    Access to healthcare Access to education Market trends
    Quality of food Demographic trends Business opportunities
    Community life, meetups Transparency & Corruption Access to resources
    Dominating religion Gender equality Competition level
    Access to nature Tolerance Purchasing power
    Cultural life Work-Life balance Innovation level
    Access to information Freedom International integration
    Physical security Economic inequality Strong industries

    Understanding the perfect environment for benchmarking purposes

    Now we know that to prosper in life, you need to be part of an environment that feels like home and natural to you, and enables you to prosper, develop and grow. It’s very simple to know if you are in the right environment. If you have to ask yourself, you’re not. You just know it deep down.

    Next we have the question of positive and negative trends. If the environmental outlook is positive, that usually gives people hope and will to live and fight. If the outlook is negative, people often turn to zombies. But what are positive trends? It’s quite simple.

    If the environment is developing towards the perfect environment, then the trends are positive. If the environment is moving away from the perfect environment, then the trends are negative and you should somehow act to mitigate the risk and potential damage.

    Then we have the main rule about the perfect environment. No environment is perfect. Friction, tension and challenges are always present in every environment. That’s what enables progress, innovation and personal development.

    Nevertheless, there is a limit when an environment becomes a toxic one. There is a limit when anomalies don’t encourage you anymore, but stifle your potential. It’s the same as with stress levels. A little bit of stress encourages you to act. Too much stress turns you into a passive zombie.

    We must also mind the individual differences and preferences. One person might thrive in a certain environment, but another person might suffer in the same environment. There is no ideal environment for everyone.

    Life is about diversity and various communities with different sets of values. The values are the ones that determine how well you fit in the environment. And it’s your job to find the environment where you fit in. But we must all respect the differences and strive towards variety.

    Here are a few examples of normal differences: Some people love creative freedom and others love order and discipline. Some people love to work in solitude, and others need to socialize a lot. Some people love environments that are more spiritual, others prefer practical ones. And so on. These are all natural and acceptable differences.

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    But there are general elements that every healthy environment must have. Here they are:

    Basic physical and psychological safety and security

    There is no healthy environment that doesn’t offer basic physical and psychological safety and security. Feeling safe, not being abused in any sense (physically or emotionally), having access to a healthy diet, normal sleep schedule and decent housing and working environment, these are all the basic elements of a healthy environment and human rights.

    Unfortunately, there are many poor countries that still don’t provide these basics today. And even in developed countries, there are many families that are violating these basic rights with toxic behaviors and abuse. It’s almost impossible to live a happy life in such an environment.

    We also must not forget about the environment in a narrower sense – having access to clean water, air and exposure to nature. It’s hard to live a happy life if you can’t feel the connection with Mother Nature and it’s hard to operate optimally if your lungs don’t breathe clean air and your body isn’t properly hydrated with clean water.

    At this point, I must also mention money. Only having enough money doesn’t automatically lead to happiness. Otherwise every billionaire or movie superstar would be super happy; and you can find many depressed wealthy people and superstars.

    But a lack of money and poverty absolutely leads to a lower quality of life. It’s hard to live a quality life if you are living from paycheck to paycheck. That means the ideal environment enables you to live a decent financial and material life. And if you are a minimalist, you don’t need millions for that.

    Tolerance leads to empathy, collaboration and love

    The second important element of every healthy environment is tolerance. Tolerance encourages everyone to be who they are, as long as they aren’t hurting other people. They can develop their own hobbies, interests and personal style. Tolerance is the essence of collaboration, innovation, empathy and acting out of love for humanity.

    All that brings positive vibes in the air. It awakens creative energies and divine humanity traits. Instead of disconnecting, excluding and hating, it leads to connecting, sharing, loving and learning from people who are different. Tolerance also encourages people to innovate and try new things, because the community is tolerant to failures.

    People who are not tolerant are afraid. Fear-based environments are rarely happy and healthy. Much like extensive fear does damage to your body, so it does damage to environments.

    On the other hand, people who are tolerant trust in themselves and life, and have a loving nature with developed basic goodness and willingness to collaborate. That’s the kind of people you want to be surrounded with.

    Transparency that leads to trust, security and fairness

    Then we have transparency. Transparency leads to trust, a sense of security, and fairness. A lack of transparency leads to corruption, mistrust, and unfairness. In non-transparent environments, people start to manipulate, shame and guilt trip each other.

    People start plotting and gossiping. In a non-transparent system, effort is rarely rewarded and that kills healthy ambitions and motivation.

    When an environment is transparent, rules are known, there are no privileged individuals and hidden agendas. It’s a blessing to work in such environments. If you do some research, you can quickly find that more developed and happier countries are more transparent and have less corruption.

    The key ingredient of transparency is honest, deep and direct communication (with no hidden agendas). Transparency must always be accompanied with a working legal system.

    Encouragement to become the best version of yourself

    A healthy environment recognizes your strengths, talents and potential, and encourages you to make the most out of them. The right kind of environment pushes you to become the best version of yourself. It provides a certain level of organization and discipline, but also enough encouragement, mentoring and positive feedback and praise.

    The best environments provide the right balance between constantly pushing you out of the comfort zone, and providing enough safety nets when things go wrong.

    In that kind of environment, you are exposed to many intellectual conversations, talented people and opportunities. You feel valuable, you are aware of the value you contribute to the society and you love your work at least to a certain extent.

    A positive outlook and constant innovation

    We must not forget the importance of the environmental outlook. A healthy environment is an environment with a great vision, mission and potential.

    It’s an environment that goes forward, an environment that brings hope and clear objectives about where to go. That kind of an environment encourages innovations, improvements and technological advancements.

    Technology deserves a special mention at this point. Technology increases productivity, connectedness, mobility, quality of life, access to information and knowledge. That’s why it’s an important part of any healthy environment. Besides law and a high level of awareness, technology plays a key role in the positive development of civilization.

    The outlook (vision, mission, potential, trends) is important on the country, municipality and industry level. When you are analyzing an environment, you have to pay attention to all of them. And finally, there is no positive outlook without a stable political, financial and macroeconomic system.

    If we summarize all these points, we can say that you should look for an environment that:

    1. Makes you feel safe and supports you at your life goals
    2. Encourages you to make smart life choices and to collaborate with other people
    3. Accelerates your success in a fair and transparent way, and provides safety nets in a case of failure
    4. Gives you a good quality of life with a potential for self-actualization
    5. Lets you be who you want to be, as long as you aren’t hurting others

    How to analyze the environment to understand your current position

    Now we have all the inputs for analyzing an environment (for yourself or anybody else). We know that there is no single optimal environment for all people, but there are traits that make an environment healthier or more toxic.

    There is no perfect environment, but there are environments that are super healthy and environments that have too many disadvantages and thus become toxic.

    We know that we must pay special attention to the general culture, people, current situation and trends. And we know that every individual is affected by their home or personal environment and the working or business environment.

    Now it’s time to start analyzing based on this framework.

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    Analyzing the business environment

    Let’s start by analyzing the business environment, because it’s a little bit easier than analyzing the personal one, where stronger intimate feelings are always involved (and consequently cognitive biases).

    You can also make changes in business life more easily than in private life. And besides that, you can find many resources and pre-made analyses that can help you get the bigger picture in what kind of a position you are in the career or business sense.

    To have a complete picture of any business environment, you must do an analysis on three levels. They go from the broader macroeconomic perspective to a more specific microeconomic one:

    1. Country level
    2. Market level
    3. Company level

    The first question is where to find the data. It’s easy to find secondary data and different external analyses for countries and markets.

    You can check different databases, NGO reports, documents prepared by trade associations, analytic companies, embassies, banks, the World Bank, magazines and universities. Search engines are also your best friends in this regard, just don’t give up too soon.

    Where to get the data for the company you work for depends on the type of company – whether the company is trading publicly or not, are financial reports in your country public or not, what is your level of clearance in the company, and so on.

    Usually every bigger business has some kind of a competitive analysis or business plan. If not, it’s a good exercise to make your own analysis. In the process, you will learn a lot about your company and get many ideas that you can then pass on to management (and potentially even be promoted or rewarded).

    When you know where to get the data, you must know that there are standard analytical approaches or frameworks for how to analyze the state and potential for each of these three levels. I will suggest the best frameworks to use for analyzing your environment and how it influences your life.

    The country level – PESTLE analysis

    For the country level, the most appropriate analysis is PESTLE analysis and a few country level indexes are also worth considering.

    A quality PESTLE analysis will give you a good overview of any country, and indexes provide a good benchmark of your current country with other countries. In the PESTLE analysis, you analyze the following elements:

    • Political: Political system, political stability, infrastructure, tax policy, regulation, funding, grants and initiatives, freedom of press, personal freedom, employment legislation, international trade policies, ease of doing and initiating a business and trade restrictions.
    • Economical: Economic growth, strong industries, interest rates, exchange rates, inflation, economic climate, macroeconomic stability, unemployment rate, national debt, labor costs, seasonal factors, health insurance, social security, stage of business cycle, impact of globalization, economic outlook and likeliness of economic change.
    • Social: Cultural norms, education, religion, demographics, social attitudes, health consciousness, income distribution, media views and freedom, lifestyle, fashion, taboos, mobility, social responsibility, interest and pressure groups, ethnic diversity and social welfare.
    • Technological: Research & development, emerging technology, technology transfer, development of IT and e-commerce, openness to innovation and changes, technology diffusion and disruption and degree of automation.
    • Legal: Law and policies (antitrust, consumer, discrimination, employment, health, safety), bureaucracy, court system, law enforcement, general safety, regulations and standards.
    • Environmental, ethical: Clean air and water, climate change, land use, access to nature, safety, business ethics, attitudes, corruption risks, energy availability, pollution, waste management, carbon footprint, geography and disaster quotient.

    I suggest you try to find a few PESTLE analyses for your country somewhere online. Governments, chambers of commerce and other NGOs often make them public. After getting a general overview of your country, there are a few indexes that can help you to benchmark your country with others. Here they are:

    1. World Happiness Report
    2. Human Development Index
    3. Legatum Prosperity Index
    4. OECD Better Life Index
    5. Global Peace Index
    6. Where-to-be-born Index
    7. Forbes – Best countries for business
    8. World Bank Doing Business Ranking
    9. Global Competitiveness Report
    10. List of other rankings

    Knowing where your country stands should help you make several general decisions. First, the toughest question – should you change the country or not? Can you live a quality life without migration? Then there is the strategy for how to protect yourself from potential dangers like financial or political instability.

    If you understand what is coming sooner or later (like a bubble bursting), you can prepare better. PESTLE analysis can also help you make decisions about where to adapt, where you can contribute to the development of your country, and how to maximize the positives.

    The market level – five core questions

    There is one very important rule in business: Markets always win. Being on the right market is a blessing, and operating on a market that is small, ultra-competitive and shrinking is extremely hard and painful.

    In the long term, choosing the right market is probably the most important career and business decision (because you can always change the company or go work internationally).

    On the market level, there are only a few core questions you must answer for yourself with the analysis:

    1. Do you like the industry/market you work for and honestly want to contribute to its growth and development?
    2. Is the market big enough with many opportunities and is it growing (strong growth predictions for the next 10 years)?
    3. Are there any big threats or disadvantages that could have devastating effects on your career (bubble burst, moving factories to countries with cheaper labor force etc.)?
    4. Are you working for a company that is or can become a key player on the market? It can also be your own business.
    5. Do you have competences that are in great demand and rare supply on this market (that’s the only real job safety)?

    When you have answers to the five core questions, you can dig deeper. You can compare growth of the industry you work in with other industries (and forecasts for the next five years). You can calculate TAM, SAM, SOM for your company.

    It makes sense to further analyze potential threats (jobs moving to another town or country, industry bubble etc.) and opportunities. When you understand the market trends and paradigms, you can absolutely make much better career choices.

    The company level – do you fit in

    There are many different types of analyses you can perform on the company level. Benchmark analysis, balanced scorecard, heptalysis, MOST, SWOT, Porter’s five forces, nine-box matrix, BCG matrix, core competencies analysis, CATWOE and analyses in the business plan, just to name a few very popular ones.

    They are all quite complicated for our needs, so we will simplify things a little bit. On the company level, you are interested in two main things – (1) is the company performing well, meaning growing together with the market or industry. The second important factor are (2) relationships at work.

    If we first focus on the position and potential of your company (the one you work for or own), these are the important parts of the company’s operations you should know, understand and compare to competitors and your personal goals and values:

    • Vision and mission – Do you feel the vision and the mission of the company and want to honestly fight for it? Is the vision something that inspires you and thus you love to come to work every day?
    • Strategies, tactics and objectives – Do you agree with strategies and goals of the company in general? The higher the position you have, the more you must understand and be comfortable with the company’s business plan.
    • Market opportunity – Is the company innovating hard enough, seizing all the market opportunities and growing together with the market (at least as fast as the market is growing)? There must be a strong marketing- and sales-oriented culture in the company.
    • Competitive advantage – Does your company have a clear competitive advantage over its competitors? In a sense, every company today must be a tech-oriented company that is constantly innovating.
    • Financial position of the company – Is company in a good financial position? This means it’s profitable, has sound profit margins, doesn’t have too much debt and has many safety nets for troubled times.

    These are the five core elements you must be familiar with, wherever you work. Now, if we switch our focus from operations to people, the Gallup group did great research on what makes a great workplace.

    They found twelve main factors that contribute to strong company culture and a workplace where people feel great.

    These are the important questions to focus on in the analysis when you are studying your business relationships and general company’s culture:

    1. You know what is expected from you at work
    2. You have the material and the equipment to do your work
    3. At work, you have the opportunity to do what you do best every day
    4. In the last 7 days, you have received recognition or praise for doing good work
    5. Your supervisor, or someone at work, seems to care about you as a person
    6. There is someone at work who encourages your development
    7. At work, your opinions seem to count
    8. The mission and purpose of your company makes you feel your job is important
    9. Your coworkers are committed to do quality work
    10. You have a best friend at work
    11. In the last six months, someone at work has talked to you about your progress
    12. In the last year, you had opportunities to grow and learn at work

    I would add three more things to these twelve factors: (13) Do you respect your boss and can learn from them, (14) is the company culture Kaizen culture that is not corrupt and constantly innovates, and (15) do your personal values match the company values. The last one contributes to a feeling of fitting in, that you are in the right place at the right time.

    For the business environment, make sure that you are in the right industry and then in the right company. Alternately, you can open your own company in the right industry.

    And if you are living in a not very promising country, you have two options – move out or find a company that does international business. An analysis of your business environment can help you extensively with making these decisions.

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    Analyzing the home environment

    When we analyze the home environment, we are interested in three personal environmental factors.

    The first component is (1) analyzing family as an organizational entity, the second is (2) the quality of each personal relationship (with family members and friends), and the third (3) location of your home.

    The quality of individual relationships

    Let’s start with the second component. The quality of each relationship is a subjective measure, but you can quickly assess whether a relationship is on the safe, healthy side.

    Below are the signs of a healthy relationship, and if a relationship is within these norms most of the time and no abusive behavior is present (physical violence, cheating etc.), these are the kind of relationships you are looking for:

    1. Both people have the center on themselves and only then is a relationship formed
    2. You share similar values and interests, and you create, have fun and experience things together
    3. There is a high level of tolerance, transparency, trust and respect
    4. You listen to one another and show sensitivity to feelings and needs
    5. There are always more dimensions present in a relationship
    6. You encourage each other to constantly improve and achieve personal goals
    7. The investment into the relationship is close to 1:1 from both sides (on average over a longer period of time; fluctuations are natural)
    8. You communicate with active constructive responses 80 % of the time and you communicate a lot about the important things
    9. You hold each other up when tough times come
    10. In intimate relationships, there must be love and sexual attraction

    In addition to that, you can assess the intensity, duration and frequency of drama in every relationship. It’s a good sign of how healthy a relationship is. The less drama, the better (as long as a relationship is not completely passive).

    And for the intimate relationship (your spouse), there are additional 18 questions that can help you answer if you are with the right person.

    Now you should have a good picture of the quality of each relationship in your personal life (mother, father, siblings, spouse, kids, friends, other relationships). If you do the analysis for 10 most important relationships in your life, you will quickly get a picture of which relationships are healthy and which aren’t.

    The general family environment

    The second thing we are interested in is the general family environment. Every family functions like an organization with its own culture, values, system etc.

    Knowing that, we are especially interested in the following elements of every family environment:

    • Family history and heritage (geographical, ethnical, status etc.)
    • Quality of genes – potential illnesses, physiological traits etc.
    • Core family values
    • Home rules and obligations
    • General climate and outlook towards life in the family (strict, relaxed, formal, informal etc.)
    • Positive and negative behavioral patterns
    • Inclination towards sports, science, creative arts, other hobbies and interests
    • The importance of formal education
    • Family goals and ambitions
    • Financial status of the family and money habits
    • Unwritten rules in the family environment
    • Family religion and traditions
    • Eating habits
    • Other factors

    Now, the question is what you can do with all this information. Things with friends are quite easy, you can always terminate relationships with the toxic friends in your life.

    With family, things are quite different. You can’t choose your own family (except your spouse, which is a very important decision). Nevertheless, there are several ways how the analysis can help you:

    1. You can better understand yourself by deeply understanding your roots. It’s a way of examining your life and getting to know yourself better. That’s also a way to see your past in a more positive light.
    2. You can consciously decide what kind of a legacy you will hand down to your offspring. In other words, you can decide which family culture elements you will change or improve in your secondary family.
    3. Understanding your family (developing empathy for family members) gives you great insights that can help you maximize the love that you receive and give back to your family. You can develop more empathy for family members, set clearer boundaries and decide with which family members you will develop deeper bonds or create a greater distance (if a relationship is a toxic one).

    The location of your home

    The third important part of the home environment analysis is where you choose to live. This includes everything from the general decision on whether you prefer to live in a metropolis, town or countryside, to the specific neighborhood and flat or house you choose.

    Where you live has a big impact on your life. The simple rule is to choose a location where you feel good. Your house or flat must feel like home. It must be something you consciously choose.

    The important criteria when choosing where to buy your home are:

    • Town infrastructure and transportation options
    • Bureaucracy levels
    • Presence of local communities, meetups for different hobbies and nightlife
    • Exposure to business opportunities (usually collates with town size and development)
    • Access to nature, clean air and water
    • Neighborhood safety
    • Access to formal and informal education
    • The suitability of the town for kids and elderly population
    • General vibe of the town (does it resonate with your personal vibe)

    You have to choose which criteria are the most important to you, and then find the best city for your lifestyle. Municipalities invest a lot in promoting their local environments and all the activities they provide.

    You can also find many online tests that recommend where would be the best place for you to live by choosing the criteria that matter to you the most. Ask yourself how you would like to design your life, and then assess which locations can support your life design the most.

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    The gap and the best way to change your environment

    Now you know how to analyze your home and business environment and what to look for in both of them. The better you know yourself, the better you understand what kind of an environment you need to flourish, the better off you will be.

    Choosing the right environment is an important part of your life strategy. It absolutely pays off to take a day or two to analyze all the discussed environmental elements and then prepare a plan how you will build yourself a superior environment that will enable you to flourish and thrive. Action is an important part of the analysis.

    Thus your concluding thoughts in the analysis should be:

    1. What kind of an environment you are currently in now
    2. What is the best environment for you to operate in (realistically achievable; and mind that your standards can constantly change depending on your life situation, needs etc.)
    3. How big is the gap
    4. How you will get to the desired environment (by implementing changes into your life)
    5. Leave some room for error – what you think you might like and what you actually like can be two different things (so make sure the search mode is a big part of your acting)

    The last question is what is the best way to build the right environment for yourself. The answer is one step at the time. Well, I dedicated an entire article to the topic of how to build yourself a motivational environment.

    But in summary, start with the elements that you can easily influence – join a new meetup, find a mentor, redecorate your home, find a few new friends, and then build up from there. You should absolutely go for the low-hanging fruit and then scale the changes up.

    And when you are improving your environment, you must know that some elements are out of your control. In such cases, your only option is to adapt. Where you are the one in control, change things to the better, where not, adapt.

    You adapt by changing yourself, by staying flexible. If you don’t want to lead a revolution, sometimes changing yourself is your best option. But if that isn’t possible, then a revolution might be in order – hopefully for the better.

    So for the end, next to every environmental factor in your analysis, mark properly: change, adapt, or disrupt. Enjoy analyzing and building yourself a super supportive environment.

  • Everything you need to know about minimalism as the coolest lifestyle

    In the past 5 years or so, minimalistic living became something very close to my heart and an important part of my life design and superior personal organization. More and more people are joining this movement, since it’s really one of the coolest and most beneficial lifestyles to follow in today’s cluttered world.

    In this article, I will describe my experience of going from a messy person who kept every small useless thing to becoming an unhealthy ascetic person and then finally a healthy minimalist. All that hoping to convince you to also try and experiment with this awesome life design concept.

    Living a minimalistic lifestyle not only makes room for the important things in life, but it’s also a great weapon against being bombarded with products and sales offers all the time. Not to mention that minimalism makes your wallet full and happy.

    After making the first steps towards minimalism, you quickly realize that you don’t need thousands of useless items to be happy, unique and to feel safe.

    You do need a few key things that make life comfortable and you need to protect yourself on a material level and enjoy having possessions, but at the same you must know where to draw the line, so that things aren’t cluttering your life, giving you a false sense of identity and dragging your productivity down.

    So let’s start exploring the world of minimalistic living. Here are the topics covered in the article:

    The world is filled with cheap products and everybody wants you to buy something

    If you turn on the TV, you can quickly see one big downside of today’s world. The mantra that crowds all over the world are following, especially young people, is “shopping & f*cking”.

    Everybody wants to enjoy life through endless hours of shopping, enjoying material possessions, being famous and having fun. The demand on markets is the highest ever in history and people can’t wait to spend their hard‑earned money (or their parent’s money or even borrowed money) on new products.

    High demand leads to even higher supply. That means shopping centers are growing like mushrooms after a rainy day even in small mountain villages, you are exposed to hundreds of ads every day everywhere you go, and the social pressure to own the latest version of a phone, car and fashionable clothes has never been so huge. Everybody wants to get high just one more time by buying a few new possessions.

    At this point a quote from Fight Club serves us perfectly to illustrate the whole picture:

    People buy things they don’t need, with money they don’t have, to impress people they don’t like.

    The pressure that you are missing out on something if you don’t own everything in fashion, and if you aren’t beautiful, smart, rich, fit and powerful at the same time is very huge. That’s why people want more and more.

    Being exposed to all the shopping centers, products and ads, having easy access to money, yielding under all the social pressure and enjoying the dopamine rush when you buy something new is the perfect combination that makes people into unwise spenders.

    Now, don’t get me wrong, I think that we live in the best times ever. There are so many upsides to today’s world, like the lowest poverty, high mobility, access to information, endless opportunities and high safety levels. We can enjoy all that, at least in most parts of the world.

    But there are also a few downsides – market complexity, information overload, unrealistic expectations towards life and too many options for everything, including options for buying new things.

    Glorifying shopping and the “yolo” mentality are definitely not strong virtues and values of contemporary times. All great things in life were achieved with stoic virtues – frugality, smart and hard work, innovation, superior organization and flexibility. And empires crumbled under epicureanism.minimalism

    Finding the balance between the inner resources and the outer resources

    Minimalistic living is about finding the right balance between possessing inner and outer resources, and finding a balance between materialistic greed and ascetic martyrdom. If we start with the basic segmentation of resources, we know two types of resources – inner (internal) ones and outer (external) ones.

    Internal resources are the sum of all of your competences – knowledge, skills, willpower, creativity, innovative ideas, self-image, self-confidence, your life strategy and how you design your lifestyle, and everything else that is a part of your personality, your mindset and your agency. With inner resources, you have the ability to influence your environment and create wealth (money, healthy relationships, creative works, value added etc.).

    Your outer or external resources are all possessions and wealth you have that is not a part of who you are – money, connections, contracts, assets and all the items you possess. Now here’s why the inner/outer resources division is important for minimalistic living.

    An emotionally healthy person looks for a balance between the inner and the outer resources. Such a person knows that they have to develop their inner resources first, and then with the right inner resources they can always create more outer resources.

    For example, if you learn how to code, you can always undertake a new coding project to make more money. If you develop sales skills, you can always earn more money by selling something. The rarer the skills you possess that are in high demand, the better the position you are in. The right combination of inner resources brings the biggest safety ever; because you can always make more money.

    With the inner resources, you can directly create more external resources. But the formula doesn’t work the other way around. You can’t directly gain more inner resources by possessing more outer resources. That is exactly what people are trying to achieve by owning thousands of items and constantly buying new ones. Let me explain:

    • You hope to feel happier (inner resource) by buying yourself a new thing (outer resource).
    • You hope to be more self-confident (inner resource) by putting on new fancy clothes (external resource).
    • You hope to be seen as an interesting person (inner resource) by buying the latest version of a phone (external resource).
    • You hope that your spouse will love you more (inner resource) by buying him/her a new fancy gift or a bigger car (outer resource).

    You may quickly wrongly assume wrong that more outer resources bring more inner resources. You can quickly identify yourself with your possessions. Different brands may feel like parts of your personality.

    The dopamine rush might seem like you found the way to happiness by making one more purchase. A relationship might finally seem like a happy one when you buy someone an expensive gift, but what about in a few days? Things go back to normal, where they deserve to be.

    External resources absolutely play a great role in developing more inner resources, but not directly, only indirectly. You might definitely look more representative in a nice suit. But you still need personality substance. The suit is only an add-on. You definitely might be more productive with a faster and newer phone. But first you need to be organized as a person in your core lifestyle.

    A nice home can definitely bring you more comfort, but it will never make you permanently happy. The substance, like an interesting personality, resourcefulness, likability, status, they’re all developed by working on yourself, not buying things. They get developed by investing in yourself and continuous improvement.

    That leads us to the second part of the quote from Fight Club: “You are not your job, you’re not how much money you have in the bank. You are not the car you drive. You’re not the contents of your wallet. You are not your fucking khakis. You are the all singing, all dancing crap of the world.”

    In other words, you are unique and as unique as everybody else. You don’t need thousands of meaningless possessions to feel better about yourself. Feel good about yourself when you are completely naked. Develop your talents, become a healthy assertive person and know that you deserve love for who you are. No possession can bring you that.

    Minimalism is not the lack of something, it’s the perfect amount of something. N.B.

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    Ascetic life, the other unhealthy extreme

    Hoping to find happiness, uniqueness and identity in owning hundreds of meaningless possessions (on borrowed money) is one extreme. The other extreme is denying the material world altogether and sliding into an illusion of divine unmaterialistic spirituality, ascetic living and giving up on owning anything that isn’t necessary to survive.

    If changing your lifestyle and following new dogmas is based on emotional issues, you can quickly go from one extreme to another.

    When you find that material things don’t bring happiness per se and that they can’t calm your hungry soul down, you can quickly decide to join the anti-capitalism march hating the materialistic world filled with advertisements and especially the financial system supporting all the corruption, unfairness and depravity. I’ve been on one side and the other.

    Denying the material world is as bad as glorifying it. I’m not saying that the social design is perfect, that the financial system is working well, and that there isn’t a worrying gap between the rich and the poor. I am trying to bring forward the painful truth that the reason why people decide to live the ascetic life and resist the materialistic world or even protest against it are rarely that straightforward.

    If you are constantly obsessed that you own too many things, your mind is still obsessed with stuff.

    For those people who decide for an aggressive ascetic lifestyle, it’s usually too painful to enjoy the material world, or too painful to fight for material things. The source of the pain might be that they don’t believe in themselves enough, inconsiderately acquire competences that are high in supply and low in demand, or have traumatic experiences in childhood that led to developing a false mindset about possessions.

    Being raised in poverty often leads to one extreme or the other – to a greedy soul that’s never satisfied or to a martyr for whom it’s too painful to own anything. I’ve been on both sides, so I know how these extremes feel. They are definitely not the solution and the formula for a happy life.

    Denying the material world is not the answer. If you are constantly bothered by what you own, your mind is still obsessed with stuff, and that isn’t healthy. You have to find the right balance between having enough inner and outer resources, so that you can normally grow, create and enjoy life and easily connect with other people. You don’t want to only survive in the material world, you want to thrive.

    So when it comes to minimalism, you have to avoid anyone claiming that you should own only an x number items to be a true minimalist or that if you own one expensive item you are a traitor to the minimalistic community.

    Minimalism is about possessing the perfect amount of something, be it an outer or an inner resource. Being a true minimalist means that you don’t run away from the material world, but on the other hand you also make sure that you don’t drown in it and waste your life.Declutter your life

    The problem of owning too much stuff and basic rules of minimalism

    Now that we know not to push into any extreme, the question is what to own and what not to own. Let’s analyze what makes sense. All material things have one big problem. They take up space, time and energy. They have a tendency to pile up.

    We all have that drawer full of clutter; and a basement or a garage. And a corner in a room. Things have extreme inertia and tend to stay where they are as dust holders. That’s why all material things need to be managed properly. There are a few rules about that.

    He who buys what he doesn’t need steals from himself. – Swedish proverb

    Don’t buy things too quickly

    By nature, we are all emotional buyers, impulsive buyers. Every purchase gives us a small dopamine rush. That’s why you have to trick yourself into becoming a wiser spender. There’s a simple trick you can do.

    Wait a few days before making minor purchases and a few weeks for bigger purchases. You’ll be surprised at how often you change your mind and foresee that at the end of the day, maybe you don’t need that thing that you wished for so much.

    Properly maintain what you own

    You can extend the longevity of things you own with regular maintenance. It’s better to own fewer things and maintain them properly, than to own thousands of items you forget about or don’t have time to maintain.

    Examples are regularly cleaning your computer from the outside and its operating system, taking good care of your car, protecting expensive items with cases etc.

    Do regular cleanings

    One of the most important things for living a minimalist lifestyle are regular cleanings. You should try to discard the things you don’t need on a daily basis as life goes by, but in spite of doing that, things still have a tendency to accumulate and take up space.

    That’s why it makes sense to do regular monthly cleanings and a major one every half year. Right before winter and summer begin, do a major cleaning. Here I wrote how I do regular major cleanings.

    Designing a space for decluttering

    There are only two types of home design. The one that encourages clutter accumulation and the one that discourages it. Many drawers, shelves, boxes, wardrobes and niches invite clutter and rubbish. You want to avoid that. Minimalistic designs, where there is no place to put a new souvenir, leave you with only one place where the memento can go – trash.

    You can always take a picture of the souvenir and save it on your computer for the memories. But you need to build yourself a motivational environment that encourages minimalistic life design and prevents you from throwing things in the corner where they pile up for months.

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    Everything you own either brings value into your life or drags you down

    Everything you do and have in life (material things, relationships etc.) either adds value to your life or drags you down. There is no third option. Things that add value to your life are things that make you happy, lead you to more creativity and greatness, make you healthier and more energetic, develop your talents, and so on.

    Things that take value from the quality of your life (aka waste) are the things that bring the negative into your life, to the environment or the society. This list contains clutter, overspending, throwing food away, owning things that only take up space, and so on.

    For every item you own, you have to ask yourself whether it brings value to your life or not really. If it doesn’t bring any real value into your life, you don’t need it. The result you’ll enjoy in the end by throwing away things you don’t need is more time, more money, more physical space and more room for the important things in life.

    • Do you love the item you own?
    • Is the item really useful?
    • Do you feel positive energies when you think about the item?

    Nevertheless, you must be very careful when answering the question of whether throwing something away or not makes sense, because your emotions might quickly mislead and mess with you. You can very quickly find a superficial argument why not to throw something away. Let’s look at how to deal with that.

    I make myself rich by making my wants few. H.D. Thoreau

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    The mixed feelings you always have when throwing things away

    I did a long self-reflection every time I took a step deeper into the minimalistic lifestyle. I also observed many of my friends and family members doing major cleanings. There’s one interesting thing that I noticed. You can extremely easily find an excuse why not to sell, give or throw something away.

    • The item holds memories or you are somehow emotionally attached to it.
    • You assume that you might need that item someday, even if you haven’t used it for years.
    • You feel guilty at the first thought of getting rid of something, even if you don’t like the item, because it was a gift, you were taught not to throw things away, and so on.
    • Rooms filled with things don’t seem empty, and that means your life must also be more full.

    That’s what usually holds people back. These are the counterforces, battling all the advantages of throwing something away. It feels good to throw something away. It makes room in your life. You get more margin. But it’s emotionally hard.

    When you tidy up your environment, you always feel like you also tidied up part of your inner self – your mind, emotions and spirit. Not to mention the benefits of the workout you do when you carry all the clutter from the shelves into the trash.

    Having more time, more money, more physical space, less stress and more room for the important things in life always feels good and liberating.

    When you do major cleanings, when you have to decide whether to get rid of something or not, there are always doubts and second thoughts. That’s normal.

    And every time you have to convince yourself that the freedom of not owning unnecessary stuff is much greater and beneficial than any emotional arguments that look for superficial safety in owning things. With time, it gets easier to own as little as possible, but there is always a bit of internal struggle when you have to throw something away. It’s normal and we all have to deal with it.

    When you have problems deciding what to do with an item, ask yourself – which moments in your past were the deepest and most fulfilling experiences you had? Which past things made your life really valuable and worthwhile and bring tears to your eyes? It’s probably not an old rusty vacuum cleaner in your garage that you might need some day.

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    All the options you have when doing major cleanings

    Many people assume that when you decide to live a more minimalistic lifestyle, you throw away 90 % of your stuff and that’s it. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Becoming a minimalist is a process. It takes time. You can’t become a minimalist in a single day.

    Becoming a minimalist is like peeling an onion. First you start by cleaning things out of your life that you really don’t need, and then you make the standards for what it makes sense to own and what not higher and higher. You just have to be careful not to go into any extremes, as we discussed.

    In the process of de-owning, throwing things away is not the only option you have. You have at least four options at your disposal for what to do with things:

    • Throw away – You can simply throw away an item for which you know that it has no value at all
    • Give away – Sometimes things that have no value for you have value for other people
    • Sell – If an item has solid monetary value and you don’t need it, liquidate it into cash
    • Rent out – If an item has value and you don’t need it, you can turn it into a cash machine by renting it or getting a co-owner or a co-user

    Other options you have that also lead to more minimalistic lifestyle:

    • Automate – social media marketing, tasks, production …
    • Cancel – subscription, event, appearance, travel, visit, meeting …
    • Delegate – tasks, commitments, chores …
    • Delete – task, functionality, files, online account …
    • Downsize – company, number of relationships, car, house …
    • Forget about it – issue, problem, person …
    • Let it go – emotional problem, emotional issue …
    • Minimize – workload, number of daily decisions, options …
    • Optimize – chores, processes, decision-making …
    • Opt out – newsletters, projects, commitments, meetings …
    • Refocus – reset priorities, define your True north …
    • Remove people from your life, functionalities, options …
    • Set limits – for mental masturbation, TV watching, the number of things you do simultaneously …

    When I went from one extreme (searching for safety in material things) into the other (not owning anything) I made a big mistake. I threw away and gave away hundreds of possessions that had solid monetary value. A price tag. It was thousands of dollars given or thrown away. Just because I was so eager and enthusiastic to become a minimalist.

    It should have been more than obvious to me that a big emotional burden is behind the change and that I was acting irrationally. As I repeat over and over again, be rational on your way to the minimalistic path. A minimalistic lifestyle is no solution for emotional problems. It’s a lifestyle that can lead to a better quality of life, if you do steps into the minimalistic lifestyle in the right way.

    You don’t own stuff, stuff owns you.

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    How to make the first steps towards minimalism

    I hope you’re at least a little bit convinced that living a minimalistic life design make sense. Thus the most important question is: what is the next step. Well, there are simple things you can do to begin a minimalistic lifestyle and then you can escalate from there to the point you still feel comfortable.

    • Give away clothes you don’t wear and need
    • Tidy up your home and make it much more minimalistic
    • Digitalize everything that can be digitalized
    • Downsize your car if you own a car you can’t afford
    • Minimize your reading list, tasks and commitments to the most important ones
    • Start acting more minimalistic towards food and relationships

    Let’s dig a bit deeper into every one of these steps.

    Clothes

    I’m currently looking for a new home, and so I visited a few flats and houses to rent/buy. There was one pattern in all the properties I visited. People had piles of clothes everywhere. On chairs, floor, wardrobes, everywhere. They didn’t even bother cleaning them up and putting them where they belong.

    Clothes are cheap, easy to buy and there is always a new fashionable piece you should own. But then you spend 80 % of the time wearing the 20 % of your clothes that you bought years ago.

    The best way to start a minimalistic lifestyle is to give away clothes you haven’t worn at all in the past few months. And then be very careful when you buy new ones.

    Your home

    You want to have a home filled with laughter, happy family members, good friends and positive energy. You want to have a bright, spacy and clean home, where there is plenty of room for warm relationships. That means your home needs one big cleaning.

    Consider getting rid of all the things you haven’t used in months or even years (that you might need some day) – all the souvenirs, broken items, old books, worn out towels. Who needs all that? Decide to do one big cleaning of your home, and then do it regularly.

    It might be hard to throw the first few things away, but after the fifth item everything will be easier and right after you’re done with the cleaning process, you will feel wonderful. You can even have a garage sale, for example.

    Everything that can be digitalized

    A big enabler of the minimalistic lifestyle is the so­-called asset-light living. Asset-light living means you can digitalize many things you had to physically own a decade ago. CDs, videotapes, audiotapes, photo albums, books, notes etc.; it can all be digitalized or bought in a digital version.

    If you aren’t a professional collector of any of those things, you can free up a lot of your space by organizing a huge part of your life in the cloud. While you do that, you can also clean your files and folders on your computer, you can delete e-mail accounts and social networks you rarely use, and remove all other waste from your life.

    Asset light living
    Everything you need in a small device and your cloud.

    Car

    Car is most often the second biggest expense in a household, right behind a home. You don’t want to be slave to your home, and you especially don’t want to be slave to your car. Buy a car you can afford, regularly maintain it and make sure it’s clean and tidy.

    The best minimalistic move you can probably do right away is to downgrade your car. There are so many hidden expenses in a car, like insurance, gas and amortization. When you want to sell your car it’s worth nothing, and every new car costs a fortune.

    Car is nothing but one big cash consuming machine. Like TV is one big time consuming machine. I don’t even own a car anymore and it feels great.

    Projects and tasks

    The next very important aspect of life where you can do a big cleanup is the number of projects and tasks you have on your to-do list. The majority of people are overwhelmed with work and they are doing it to themselves by committing to way too many things; sometimes to run away from life in doing instead of also being. Don’t be one of them.

    Commit to a few projects where you really bring value and then say no to all the other things.

    Go through your tasks, delete all of those that aren’t really that important, and send a few e-mails out that you won’t manage to deliver what is expected of you so you will rather exit the projects. It takes some guts, but you will feel wonderful afterwards. You will do a big favor to yourself and others, who impatiently waited for you to deliver.

    Things to read

    I really like to read, so it can quickly happen to me to have thousands of unread articles in the RSS reader, ten not­-yet-finished books on my Kindle, and a Pocket app full of to-read articles. Then from time to time when I started to feel overwhelmed, I used to just delete everything.

    I stopped doing that and decided to go for a smarter strategy. Now I only go for the best content with limited to-read in progress. I don’t queue new things or buy new books when the reading queue limit is reached. You should be absolutely minimalistic in organizing your infostructure; otherwise you can drown in information.

    Food

    As much as we look for emotional safety in items, we can also look for it in food. It’s called gluttony and it leads to being overweight, low levels of energy and several diseases. Being a minimalist when it comes to food can greatly improve your quality of life.

    Don’t buy too much food and don’t stockpile tons of food that you then throw away because you couldn’t eat it before the expiration date. Have a standard weekly shopping list, eat standardized dishes and eat less of more quality food.

    Relationships

    Much like you want to be minimalistic with items you possess and food you eat, so you want to be minimalistic with relationships in your life. You want to have fewer relationships, and for those be really quality ones. Key relationships are one of the most important aspects of your life.

    People can make your life on Earth heaven or hell. Make sure you take enough quality time with the few people you really love, and offer each other mutual support and encouragement. Be minimalistic in your relationships.

    A minimalistic lifestyle is always very kind to your wallet, your stomach and your heart.

    Practical examples

    My steps towards becoming a minimalist

    When I earned my first real money as a teenager, I decided to renovate my room. I wanted my architect to put as many shelves, drawers and wardrobes as possible into my room. Then throughout the years, I piled things up. Technology was my biggest weakness.

    I had a PC, laptop, netbook, three monitors, tablet, a few mobile phones, you name it. Books were my second weakness. I had thousands of books lying everywhere. One of my shelves collapsed because of it. Not that I’m against owning books, but I had hundreds of unread books and I was buying new ones and new ones. It’s called intellectual greed.

    I had wardrobes full of clothes I never wore, old magazines were lying around everywhere, I had souvenirs from all over the world on my shelves and desk, and I had hundreds of items I never used. I felt like the room was full of memories and I felt rich in a way. But in reality the room was as cluttered and unorganized as my internal world.

    As mentioned, I then went from one extreme into another. One day I read about the minimalistic lifestyle and I just decided to be a minimalist. It made sense to me, it could be a solution for my turbulent inner world. I gave away thousands of books to friends, libraries and secondhand bookshops. I threw away all the souvenirs. I decided to go for one laptop with two external monitors. I minimized the clothes I had.

    I tried hard to really own as many things as possible. Everything I still owned bothered me. A computer cable that I rarely used, a few coins in the drawer, everything bothered me. I searched for peace and salvation in owning as few things as possible.

    Then at some point, I realized the same thing that Buddha taught and was enlightened about. Many times, the middle path is the answer. I figured out that going from one extreme into the other won’t bring me any peace and happiness. So I decided to be a healthy minimalist. Here are the rules I follow now:

    • I prefer warm and healthy relationships over owning money and brutally fighting for more possessions and fancy things. But I don’t deny the importance of money and the benefits of enjoying the material world.
    • I want to experience life more than to own things; but I have no problem enjoying the few material possessions that I do own.
    • I try to own as few things as possible, but I don’t torture myself with how many items I own.
    • If owning something brings a lot of stress into my life, I downsize it or sell it.
    • From time to time I buy myself an expensive thing I really want and I have no problem with it.
    • I give special attention to not enslaving myself with debt.
    • I try to simplify my life as much as possible and make the majority of my life about growth, creating things, connecting with people and doing things I really enjoy, which rarely costs a lot of money.
    • I know that the real path to inner happiness and peace is not through material things. I strive for a balanced amount of inner and outer resources.
    • I try to keep my environment as simplistic and minimalistic as possible.
    • I try to digitalize everything that can be digitalized by following asset-light living and having my own digital brain. I also regularly go on technology detoxes.
    • I am very mindful about the quality of the food I eat, the quality of the relationships I have and the projects I join and really commit to.
    • I very carefully maintain all the items I own. I clean them, protect them, take them to the maintenance shop when needed, and so on. The phone I own looks like new after a few years.
    • I do regular cleanings at least two times per year – of my physical and digital environment.

    You can read more here about one of my minimalistic cleanings that I did not that long ago. I’m always surprised at how I can still manage to find a few bags of clutter even if I’m very careful about what I keep in my life. Without regular cleanings, there is no minimalistic life.

    As I mentioned, today I am a much healthier minimalist, even if I currently don’t own a car or a mobile phone. But I will have no problem buying any of these two items the moment I need them. I always ask myself if something brings value into my life or drags me down. After that, I have a very clear picture of what to do with the item – own it or discard it.

    Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.

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    Homework

    Do you have the guts to try the minimalistic lifestyle?

    Now it’s up to you. It might seem scary to get rid of 80 % of the things you currently have, but you can make it less scary by following a carefully orchestrated process that we discussed. The first step is to get rid of one single thing.

    Sell something that has solid monetary value and that you don’t need on eBay. Liquidate it into cash. Then donate a few pieces of clothing you really don’t wear. Play a little bit with different ideas for how you can simplify your life and how you can own less. Experiment a little bit, it’s fun.

    The only thing you have to be careful about is not to go into any extreme. Don’t drown in stuff. Don’t drown in debt. Be more a producer than a consumer. But don’t be only a producer who doesn’t enjoy life and only works, and don’t try to live the extreme ascetic life; you won’t find happiness there.

    The material world is a very important part of the life experience. You are here on this world to grow, create, connect with people as well as to enjoy material things and possessions. Enjoy them, but don’t not look for happiness in them.

    Make sure you know where to draw the line and how to find the right balance – between possessing, being and doing. Now it’s time for you to make your first step towards a more minimalistic lifestyle. Get rid of one of the items you don’t need. It will feel good, believe me.

    If you aren’t sure, you can try minimalism as a 30 Day Challenge. Rent a completely empty flat, select no more than 100 items and try to live for a month. I know it sounds crazy, but it will definitely be an awesome life experience. Something you can tell your kids about.

    Additional resources

    If that sounds too crazy, you can find here a solid 30 Day Challenge plan for how to do one thing every day to get one step closer to a minimalistic lifestyle. It’s a smart plan and an exciting challenge you can absolutely go after.

    And if you are interested in reading more about the minimalistic lifestyle and personal experience that other people had with minimalism The Minimalists, BecomingMinimalist, mnmlist, TheMinimalistMom and Minimalism Subreddit are some of the most popular resources.

  • Wrong assumptions are the mother of all fuckups

    One day, I was hiking in the mountains with my girlfriend. On the way back, we got a little bit lost and I decided to put my survival skills to work. It didn’t take long for me to find the trail. I assumed that this was the trail we followed to get up to the summit. I was sure of it. I remembered. I saw the same trees. Of course the trail wasn’t the right one and we got even more lost. It took us hours to get back on the right track.

    Almost a decade ago, I spent a few months in California. I saw that every elite university has an alumni club and graduates are its proud members. When I returned home, I decided to found an alumni club of my high school, since it was an elite one. I strongly assumed that the school will see the benefits, people will love it and everybody will be happy. The school blocked it, people ignored it and it became one of my failed projects.

    A few years back, I decided to get fit. I never did any sports, and healthy living was something alien to me. On top of that I was super fat. It made complete logical sense to me that to look like Arnold Schwarzenegger, you only have to go to the gym a few times and mind your food a little bit. Maybe you eat a cup of protein powder from time to time. Now more than three years have passed and I still don’t look anywhere near like Schwarzenegger.

    In all three stories, I was operating based on wrong assumptions. I was 100 % sure that I knew what I was doing, but I was wrong. Meeting reality wasn’t easy. And you have to meet it sooner or later in one way or another.

    Life works in a way that in many cases, you have no other choice but to rely on your assumptions. But it helps a lot if you know that they are nothing but assumptions that need to be tested as quickly as possible. Because wrong assumptions are the mother of all fuckups.

    Don’t doubt yourself, but absolutely doubt everything you assume.

    Subjective objective reality

    Two realities

    We know two types of reality – the objective and subjective one. The objective reality isn’t accessible to any living being. The objective reality is how things really are in the world. We try to come as close to it as possible, especially with science.

    Nevertheless, complete objective reality will probably still be inaccessible for a long period of time, because there are always things for which we don’t know that we don’t know them. Artificial intelligence may be the first one to come as close to objective reality as possible.

    Here is an example of how complicated it may be to get to the bottom of objective truth:

    • People used to believe that you got ill because you became possessed by evil spirits.
    • Then doctors believed that illness was caused by an imbalance of the four humors.
    • Now we “know” that viruses and bacteria cause a big portion of diseases, but the question is if maybe there even exists something else that we don’t know yet and that causes real illness? In hundred years, will a pill be seen as a primitive solution, like a herbal potion mixture is seen today?
    • And many times, the placebo effect can help you get better, so it’s not only about drugs.

    The second type of reality is your subjective reality. The subjective reality is your own interpretation of the world. It’s the lens through which you see the world, the frame in which you operate.

    The lenses of how you interpret the world are created by your beliefs, values, past experiences, upbringing, environment and other similar factors, including your assumptions. These lenses are the primary source of how you make your decisions in life.

    As we’ve learnt, there are many errors in your subjective reality. Your senses have a limited capacity for capturing information, your brains have a limited ability for processing information, there are many things you don’t know or lack experience, everyone has many cognitive distortions and there are numerous other sources of errors in the subjective reality map.

    One big family of errors in the subjective map of reality are cognitive biases. It’s something you can’t avoid, but you can become aware that they’re part of your thinking. From stereotyping, conformation bias and anchoring to projection, transference and the halo effect. The list of cognitive biases is very long.

    Ironically, many of the cognitive biases exist to support your survival. They serve to help you protect your self-image, to deal with optimization, to help you make complex decisions, judge probabilities and avoid danger.

    They may often provide you with psychological safety and protection, but they also often help you hide behind lies or drive you to make stupid decisions.

    The other big family of errors in the subjective map of reality are wrong assumptions. You assume something will happen, but it doesn’t. You assume you know something, but you don’t. You take action, but you get a different reaction than you expected.

    That’s because the objective world is always different from your subjective representations and unique interpretations. Because of this gap, expecting anything leads to a very high probability of disappointment.

    Wrong assumptions

    The world of wrong assumptions

    You make assumptions all the time, you can’t avoid this phenomenon. It’s the way we humans operate, it’s how our brains function. Therefore, it’s impossible not to make any assumptions. The problem arises when you believe that your assumptions are the truth. But they are not, they’re only assumptions.

    It’s impossible not to make assumptions, but you can become aware that they are only assumptions, not the truth.

    There are so many different types of assumptions you make. Let’s look at just a few of them.

    Practical examples

    You assume you communicated something clearly, but maybe you haven’t. You assume other people know what you want or that they have the same values as you. But they probably don’t. You make different assumptions about what might work and what might not. In reality, you never know.

    You make assumptions about what other people think and what will they probably do. You even make assumptions about what other people think of you. You make assumptions about which ideas will work and which ones won’t, how it would be like to live in another country and so on, you make assumptions practically about everything.

    The key question is: if you can’t avoid making assumptions, what can you do about it? First of all, as we said, don’t mistake assumptions for the truth.

    Be aware that you are making nothing but assumptions. Then put assumptions to the test as soon as possible. Do a series of actions and experiments that will get you closer to the objective truth.

    Put your assumptions to the test

    The best cure for those errors in your subjective map of reality that you make because you assume things is to put assumptions to the test. You conduct a series of small actions and experiments that slowly lead you to a better understanding of the objective reality.

    You will never completely reach the objective truth, but you don’t have to. All you need is a superior understanding and key insights on which you can set your actions.

    There are many ways how you can do that. Before we dive into different approaches to testing assumptions, or hypotheses to sound more scientific, you must make sure that you become aware of the assumptions you’re making. You do that in two simple steps:

    • You say to yourself: I am only making an assumption, I don’t know the truth.
    • Then you ask yourself: how can I validate or reject my assumptions, how can I put them to the test?

    After becoming aware of the assumptions you’re making, there are several ways how you can test them. Here are a few most common approaches:

    1. Ask questions and get educated
    2. Get out and gain experience
    3. Search before you execute
    4. Actionable metrics
    5. Random experiences
    6. Research techniques

    Ask questions and get educated

    The first thing you can do to put certain types of assumptions to the test is to ask questions. Don’t be shy, just ask.

    You assume s/he doesn’t feel the way you feel? Ask. You assume a person doesn’t like you? Ask if that’s true and why. You don’t understand something? Ask. When you’re in a dilemma and you can ask a person to give a clarification, do it, don’t hesitate.

    A quick important note, when you ask people about clarifications make sure you also observe their behavior, not only listen to what they have to say. What people do is often more important than what they say. Because everyone lives in their own subjective reality, where we don’t even know the truth about ourselves.

    The second thing you can do is to get educated. Read books on the topic. Talk to people who have already achieved what you want to achieve. Subscribe to an online course. Model other people.

    Knowledge is not as valuable as real-life experience, but it absolutely makes sense to get very well-educated first and then you immediately apply knowledge to practice.

    There are always “aha” moments when you start educating yourself. You say to yourself many times, oh I didn’t know that is so, I imagined it (assumed) a lot differently. Ask questions, get educated, doubt every statement; but believe in yourself.

    Go out and gain first-hand experience

    First-hand experience acquired by small carefully set experiments is definitely a very good way to test the majority of assumptions. There is no better teacher than reality.

    Meeting reality can be harsh, but it really enables you to understand the world and yourself better. That’s why you have to do small manageable experiments. In other words, you have to be constantly in the learning, not the panic zone.

    There is a saying that you make good decisions based on experience and you gain experience based on bad decisions. That saying exposes very well how gaining real-life experience works. You’re always wrong before you’re right. You take a small step, you fail, you learn, you stand up again and then you continue in a new direction; you go from failure to failure until you succeed.

    You assume you have a good business idea? Build a landing page and send some traffic to it. It costs you a weekend of work and a few hundred dollars. You assume you don’t like to travel? Try it. You assume you’re a bad lecturer? Give it a shot. Today, you can luckily test almost everything, quickly and inexpensively.

    Experiments in life

    The search mode

    The search mode is nothing but a systematical series of experiments for finding your perfect fit in a specific area of life. You consciously decide that you will search for a thing that works for you and you don’t stop until you find it.

    In the search mode, you shouldn’t have any expectations, you shouldn’t make any commitments and you shouldn’t do any hard work. Expectations lead to disappointments and before you understand something, your expectations are definitely completely wrong. In the search phase, you just try, experiment, observe, reflect and learn about yourself and the world.

    The most important thing in this phase is to have no fixed ideas and no expectations at all. Your only job is to test the assumptions you’ve written down, correct them, and try different things in order to find out what suits you best.

    This phase is only about learning, nothing else. No goals. Just learning and playing. After every experiment you conduct, you decide whether to persevere or pivot.

    If you want to be in the search mode, you have to meet the following criteria:

    • You consciously decide that you will enter the search mode
    • You write down what kind of experiments you will make
    • You set “search mode” metrics and define very well how you will measure your progress
    • Every experiment needs to be validated or rejected based on the set metrics
    • You write down what you’ve learnt after every experiment
    • You make a decision whether you will pivot or preserve
    • Everything needs to be written down, otherwise you can quickly forget what you’ve learnt

    Use actionable metrics

    Science conducts a carefully orchestrated set of experiments to better understand how the world works. In order for the experiments to be as accurate as possible, there are many different rules to follow – deduction, induction, hypotheses, variables, control groups etc.

    In most cases, some kind of metrics are involved – you have to measure to either validate or reject your assumptions.

    That’s why metrics go hand in hand with experiments. Metrics, at the end of the day, are the best indicator of how accurate your assumptions are. Thus you have to base most of your agency and learning on life metrics.

    You have to measure when you’re right and when you’re wrong. You have to measure when you’re progressing and when you’re lying to yourself with the fake feeling of progress.

    There are many ways how you can measure things. From your physical responses and emotions, to the feedback you get from your environment and the monetary value you create.

    So first become aware when you’re making assumptions, then brainstorm what would be the most appropriate experiment to put assumptions to the test and in the end, have a set of metrics that will guide you into the right direction.

    Examples of actionable metrics in a personal life:

    Health Money
    • Exercise frequency
    • Potential progress of illness
    • Managing your body weak points
    • Regular blood test
    • Body composition (% of fat, muscle size)
    • Aerobic endurance (run a mile, VO2 max)
    • Muscular endurance (push-up test, plank test)
    • Muscular strength (one-rep max)
    • Flexibility (yoga poses)
    • Personal income statement
      • Earned income
      • Passive income
      • Portfolio income
    • Expenses
    • Taxes
    • Monthly plus/minus
    • Net-worth
      • Assets
      • Doodads
      • Liabilities (Debt)
    Career Relationships
    • Your company position (employment contract vs. organizational chart)
    • Public influence (number of interviews, public ratings)
    • Social media influence (Klout score)
    • Work enjoyment (from 1 to 10)
    • Professional connections
    • Your legacy (number of positive ideas that influenced local/global society)
    • Number of close friends you have
    • Time spent with the people you love
    • How much you do for your partner (massage, dinner, etc.)
    • How much you get out of a relationship (giving and receiving must be in balance)
    • How often you say I love you
    • How often you give a compliment to your partner
    • How often you make love
    Competences Mind/Emotions
    • Number of books you read
    • Number of seminars you visit
    • Domain knowledge you possess
    • Number of skills you master
    • Number of tech skills
    • Number of creative ideas you have
    • Your IQ
    • Your EQ
    • How well you are able to control your mind (your maximum meditating time)
    • Your daily Happiness index
    • Number of negative thoughts daily (with use of emotional accounting)
    • Dominating cognitive distortions
    • Number of new things you tried in life
    • Number of breathtaking experiences you have encountered etc.
    • Other metrics as part of your life strategy (countries you traveled to, number of languages you speak etc.)

    How you should measure your success in life? Compare…

    • Your current metrics on different life areas
    • Your past metrics on different life areas (past month, year etc.)
    • Don’t compare yourself to others too much (only healthy competition is okay I guess)

    Random experiences

    From time to time, it makes sense to go for a random experience, especially for things where you assume you’ve found the fit that work best for you. Because sometimes a completely new experience opens a whole new world to you, a world you didn’t know even existed.

    What you think you like and what you actually like are two different things. That’s why it always makes sense to go for a rich life experience and try new things when you get the opportunity to do so.

    An example would be considering your favorite dish. You’ve tried many different foods in the past and now you know that you like pasta Bolognese the most. Then you travel to a completely new place and they have your favorite dish on the menu and a dish you’ve never eaten before, but it’s their bestseller.

    In the same way, I encourage you to try different sports, investments, get to know different cultures, life settings, read things you never read before, try new hobbies, and so on. Sometimes do it strategically by employing the search mode, other times do it when the opportunity pops up, and sometimes just go proactively for a random experience.

    You will never know until you try and you will never know if you always stick to the same things.

    Research techniques

    For some of your assumptions, especially in business, you may need a professional scientific approach to testing assumptions and employing different research techniques like interviews, surveys, split testing, card sorting, contextual inquiry, mental models, different types of analysis and many other similar research techniques.

    Scientists use these techniques in their daily work to better understand the world, and there is no reason why you wouldn’t use them in your personal life while keeping the same goal in mind.

    You can use these techniques to test your (business) ideas, assess different investment opportunities, when you analyze your environment and its paradigms, when you study people’s behavior and in many other cases. Keep your mind open and use different tools at your disposal when an assumption needs to be tested.

    Tech changes

    Life changes and so testing assumptions never ends

    No matter how experienced you get, there are always errors in your subjective interpretation of reality. The fast-changing world contributes to that even more. Even if you could reach objective reality in a certain moment, an error would occur the next second. Because the world is constantly changing. And it’s changing faster and faster.

    Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.

    That’s why you constantly need to keep testing your assumptions. You have to see life as a playground, where you have to test what works and what doesn’t. Based on your findings, you have to constantly adjust your life strategy and actions.

    That’s why the search mode is so important. That’s why regular reflections are mandatory. That’s why you have to adjust your course of action and how you will get to your goal on a bi-weekly basis, if not even more frequently. That’s how you stay lean and agile.

    Don’t just assume. Experiment and validate. Only then take action.

  • To thrive, build yourself a motivational environment

    There are two variables that lead to different outcomes and results in life, positive and negative ones. The first one is your character, together with your personality traits, behavioral patterns, level of awareness, quality of decision-making, and so on.

    The second one is your environment. To a big extent, you are a product of your environment. Different types of environments bring different parts of your character to life. So an important part of personal development is also dealing with your environment.

    Where you currently are = Your starting point + Your character + Your environment

    I’ve seen it over and over again. A weak character in a strong environment, with lots of support and positive role models, starts to flourish. On the other hand, the strongest and brightest character in a bad environment gets corrupted and shady.

    I experienced both options. I was a really bad student in high school. A real rebel. But I attended an elite high school dedicated exclusively to nerds. So even if I was a bad pupil, I was still a good one compared to the national average. Small deviancies were already really bad behavior in such a positive environment.

    The outcome would have been completely different if I hadn’t been in such a healthy environment. Maybe I even would have ended up in prison, because I was a really pissed-off teenager.

    On the other hand, I worked for companies with really bad culture, years after I built a strong character and high competence levels. No matter how good and efficient manager I am, it took me an enormous amount of energy to not get involved in gossiping, malicious politics and other deconstructive behaviors.

    When everybody is doing it, you’re naturally drawn to do it too. At the end of the day, we are also monkeys trying to fit into our social circles.

    The environment around you is leading you to a certain kind of outcomes, because it influences your decisions and which part of your character gets emphasized. So it makes sense to deal a lot with the environment you operate in as part of continuous improvement and personal growth. Especially because you also have the power to change it to a certain extent. Much like you are a product of your environment, so is the environment a product of you.

    Your environment can bring out the best or the worst in you.

    When I talk about the environment you operate in, I especially have the following elements in mind (you can find a more extensive list here):

    • Your key relationships – spouse, family, friends, boss, coworkers, mentor
    • PESTLE factors – political, economic, social, technological, legal, environmental factors
    • General market trends – financial markets, job markets etc.
    • Your company culture and your office space
    • Your family culture and your home
    • Other elements (religion, infrastructure, infostructure)

    These are all the things that extensively influence your spirit, your behavior, your potential, what you can achieve in life, how happy you are and the general quality of life.

    You become who you spend the most time with. You always internalize some of the culture around you. You move together with markets. You are only a wheel in a greater system that’s called your environment.

    The bad news is that you don’t have an influence on many of those factors. You didn’t choose the country you were born in. It’s not that easy to move to a foreign county, not psychologically and sometimes not even legally. You didn’t choose your family and your family heritage or how wealthy your family is. You didn’t choose your genes and talents. You often end up in certain jobs or markets based on the randomness factor or based on pure (un)luck.

    For example, you may not have the talent for becoming a coder, so you will probably have a hard time finding a job in the IT sector, even if it’s growing fast and there are plenty of jobs. Maybe you had to go study something you never wanted because your parents pushed you.

    The good news is that at some point in life, you do have an influence on many of the environmental factors. The more you understand yourself and your talents, the more aware you are of your personal power and the more you know what kind of an environment is the best positive fit for you, the more you can shape your own destiny. The more capable you are at influencing your environment, the more free will you have, if any.

    Many times, we contribute too many success reasons to personality traits and too few to positive environmental factors, even if the latter can be pure luck.

    Motivational environment

    How to build yourself a motivational environment

    If your environment really influences your behavior to a great extent, you logically want to have strong support from your environment in a way that will help you achieve your goals. You need an environment that supports your life vision, mission, specific goals, desired lifestyle and high quality of life.

    Even more, you want to build yourself an environment that brings out the best in you and leads you to the best possible outcomes. To achieve that, we have to get familiar with a few concepts related to environmental elements.

    The scale

    There are elements of the environment you can easily influence and others that are much harder to change or it’s even impossible to do so. Here is a very general scale from the easiest to the hardest elements of your environment to be influenced:

    1. Your possessions
    2. Your home decorations
    3. Your office decorations, if there is no company policy that’s preventing you from doing it
    4. Your mentor
    5. Your friends
    6. Your spouse – depending if you are married or not, and how long you’ve been in a relationship
    7. The company you work for, your coworkers and your boss
    8. Your primary family culture
    9. Market trends
    10. PESTLE factors – if you don’t decide to change the country

    This is no rocket science. You can easily sell the things you possess or buy new ones (that you can afford), you can decorate your home more or less as you want. On the other hand, your vote for changing the political or economic system doesn’t have a really big influence. If you don’t start a revolution, there is not much you can do. In the same way, it’s easier to switch to a new car than to change your friends or family members.

    The point is that there is a scale of how hard it is to change specific elements of your environment. That leads to a simple conclusion. Start with the easy ones and then build up slowly. It’s the number one rule of changing your environment.

    Your options

    After understanding the scale, it’s time to analyze all the options you have. In reality, you only have two options when it comes to reorganizing your environment, and they are based on the level of control you have over a specific environmental element. The two options are:

    • Change: Organize your environment differently. Reorganizing your environment will lead you to more positive behavior. We can say that changing your environment will change you.
    • Adjust: Some environmental elements you can’t change. You can only change yourself and your environment will change because you’ll see it differently.

    Behind the two options is the level of control you have. There are elements you have control of and there are elements way out of your control. For the elements that fall into your control zone, you have the ability to proactively organize them so that they work in your favor.

    For the elements that are out of your control, you can only adjust and look at them from a different angle. The elements you don’t have control over, you can only reframe in your mind so that they somehow work in your favor.

    When it comes to your environment and life in general, there is an important quote that goes something like this: “Lord, grant me the strength to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

    The harsh reality is that some things you can’t change in life, you can only change how you see them and how you react to them. You can only change your mindset about them. You can decide to see or interpret things differently. And in some cases, that’s your greatest power.

    Know when to redesign your environment and when to redesign your way of thinking.

    Creative environment

    It’s time to start designing

    Now you know the basic principles. You are a product of your environment to a certain extent and you can only achieve your dream life and your goals in the right environment.

    You need an environment that supports you, that brings out the best in you and accelerates your way to success. Much of your environment was determined when you were born, but when you become an adult you can change many of its elements. So let’s start redesigning.

    Before we start redesigning, please also keep in mind that as we discussed, there are many elements of your environment that you can change easily, but some you can’t change at all, you can only change the way you look at them. It makes sense to start with environmental elements that are the easiest to change and then tackle tougher ones.

    Examples of the easiest ways to positively change your environment:

    • Change your desktop wallpaper to a motivational one (on your phone and computer)
    • Stick post-it notes to your mirror, car etc. as a cue to perform a specific habit
    • Set alarms and notifications to follow your habits
    • Decorate your home or office with motivational photos
    • Declutter your home
    • Install an app to better manage your health or wealth
    • Sell things that annoy you
    • Put fresh fruit on the kitchen counter instead of chips
    • Buy yourself a faster computer

    Every single small thing in your environment serves as a trigger for certain behaviors and moods, and that’s how habits are formed and executed. So pay very close attention to every small thing that’s part of your environment and to what kind of behavior it contributes. If it’s not a positive one, change it.

    Now let’s go to slightly more challenging ways to change your environment:

    • You can get rid of your TV, for example, to read more
    • You can find one positive person who will support you at your goals or find yourself a mentor
    • You can delete a social network or a time-wasting app
    • You can find a new more ambitious friend or stop spending time with somebody who’s an energy vampire
    • You can switch from owning a car to a bike (it’s good for your health and wallet)

    If small things influence your behavior in small ways, big things do it in big ways. Big environmental things are especially your key relationships and market trends. You especially want to carefully choose these two environmental forces and make sure they have a positive influence on you.

    To achieve that, you have to sometimes make more radical and thorough changes in your environment. Examples of more demanding changes for building yourself a more motivational environment are:

    • Joining a new social circle (business club, hobby meet-up etc.)
    • Introducing a new location to your life (gym, co-working space etc.)
    • Finding a new spouse who’s a better fit for you
    • Switching to a job where your talents can really shine
    • Changing a career and finding more perspective markets
    • Moving to a different country

    The final question is what to do with the environmental forces you can’t change but can only look at differently. In such cases, the best thing to do is to focus yourself on better managing your thoughts, feelings and behavior.

    You can do that by using many different mental tools like cognitive reframing, focusing on the positive etc. By changing yourself, you then also change your environment.

    Examples of changing yourself in order to change your environment:

    • You stop fighting with a family member and consequently they also have to stop fighting with you
    • You stop resisting market trends and accept them by adjusting your actions accordingly
    • You focus on the positives in an economical system you don’t like (capitalism, socialism etc.) and build a superior strategy to work well in the system, even if you dislike it

    The more successful you want to be, the more support you need from your environment. The more successful you want to be, the more people you need who support you and believe in you (success is teamwork), you need better support from market trends and you need a general motivational environment that drives you through the times when your spirits are dampened.

    Sometimes if you can’t beat them, you have to join them.

    Things to look for in your environment

    At the bottom line, you want to have an environment that will:

    1. Make you feel good; that includes everything from bringing out the best in you to knowing that you fit in and can shine brightly with all your talents and efforts. It’s not hard to sense which environment you feel good in and where you don’t.
    2. Encourage you to make small right and smart choices every day, which will accumulate into success over time. Examples are riding a bike instead of going by car, eating an apple instead of chips, saving money etc.
    3. You want to have elements in your environment that will drive you towards making good big decisions in life. For example, starting your own business if it makes sense, moving to a new better location or country etc.
    4. And in the end, you want to make sure that environmental forces are accelerating your success. For example, if you are working for a company that’s growing fast, there are usually many more opportunities to get a promotion.

    Many times, good environments are characterized by the so-called 5T – talent, technology, tolerance, transparency, transcendence.

    An encouraging positive environment usually has many talented people who work together, it’s very well developed in terms of technology and other PESTLE elements, there is a high level of tolerance towards differences and failure, everything is very transparent and people work based on intrinsic motivation with a strong sense of purpose. We can also add solid market growth and an absence of bozos and zombies.

    Homework

    Express your power by changing your environment

    It’s time for homework. It’s time for you to become aware of the power you have by changing your environment to just a slightly more positive note. Do one small thing that will make your environment more supportive of your goals. Be a little bit rebellious, show who’s the boss – in a positive way. And do it now.

    • Hang a motivational poster
    • Stick a post-it note on your bathroom mirror
    • Clean your home
    • Write to a person you respect and ask if they would mentor you
    • Delete an app

    First do one small thing so you can start feeling the power you have and how you can sometimes easily change your environment to a more positive one. Then follow the next steps:

    1. Analyze which parts of your environment are positively influencing you and which aren’t
    2. Brainstorm how you can reinforce all the positive influences of your environment
    3. Rank all negative environmental influences from the easiest one to change to the hardest one
    4. Start redesigning your environment and redesigning your life settings in a way that you will have all the support needed to achieve your goals and dreams.

    Your environment already had a big enough influence on you. Now it’s time for you to start shaping your environment. May the force be with you.

  • When you need to reprogram yourself and fix brain bugs

    Besides developing my blog, I’m also teaching myself how to code. Learning how to code is not easy and it takes a lot of time and hard work, but I think it’s worth it. I’m not doing it to be a programmer someday, but more as an intellectual challenge and to better understand what’s happening with my blog behind the scenes (technology aspect) and, most importantly, I think programming will be the best way to talk to our “servants” in the future – robots.

    Writing a piece of code that does exactly what you wanted it to do is an awesome feeling. While entering a few lines of code in the code editor a few days ago, an interesting thought came to me. I’ve actually been programming for decades, just not machines to do all different useful kinds of stuff. I’ve been programming or, to be more exact, reprogramming myself: to be more productive, more efficient, wiser, happier and to ultimately make smarter decisions.

    When your code is buggy

    Your body is the hardware and your brain is the piece of hardware that runs the code (software). You’ve inherited and acquired your code with genes, primary and secondary socialization, through main authoritative relationships in your youth, different early life experiences, trends in your environment, culture, friends, and so on.

    Most of the code (your character) that defines how you operate in your adult life was written in the first 7 years of your life.

    In a healthy environment, with many healthy relationships and positive behavioral patterns, you take over lines of biological code that are positive, productive, assertive. Well, the code you inherit always has some errors, there is no perfect environment. And it’s supposed to be like that. Because errors in the code bring the desire and motivation for progress and growth. Friction drives you.

    Nevertheless, there is a limit when too many errors in the environment lead to a very buggy code. If you are raised in a very toxic environment, your code can be seriously malfunctioning and damaged. That kind of a malfunctioning code leads to developing personality traits that are harmful to you and even others. It leads to things like severe negative thinking, shaping a poor life strategy, making bad life decisions, unhappiness, self-sabotage, poor relationships, and so on.

    That’s what we call a negative spiral, the double knockdown of life. First you are put in a toxic environment, where you suffer for sure, and then you suffer even more in your adult life because you make bad decisions that are a result of having been raised in a toxic environment. That’s the bad news in the whole story.

    But there is also some good news, of course. The good news is that you have the power to reprogram yourself, to fix the buggy code and thus change the course of your life to a more positive one.

    Searching for bugs

    It doesn’t take a lot of analytical effort to figure out the quality of the code that runs in your brain. Here are a few methods that can help you with such a task:

    • The parents test
    • Pinpointing toxic behavior
    • Short-term future predictions
    • The happiness index
    • The life satisfaction test
    • Gap to ideal self

    The parents test

    Like father like sonIf you aren’t doing anything about your personal growth and personal development, you are slowly turning into your parents, especially when it comes to the things you hate about them the most; they only appear in a slightly different way. One of your parents may be financially greedy and you are intellectual greedy, for example.

    The older you are, the more you realize that you’re turning into your old folks. If you don’t do anything about it.

    The test is very simple. Look at your parents, where they are, what they’ve achieved in their life, the quality of their code, and ask yourself if that’s what you want. You inherited many lines of code from your parents, so it’s logical that your destiny doesn’t lie far away from theirs. The more different destiny you want, the more work you’ll have to put into reprogramming yourself.

    Pinpointing toxic behavior

    A very good exercise for getting to know yourself better is to perform a personal SWOT analysis. You list all your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats. One big segment of your weaknesses are the so-called toxic behavioral patterns. These are the behaviors that lead you to cause harm to yourself, other people and the environment in general.

    Many times, we see ourselves in a much better light than we actually are, so while doing such an exercise It may help to ask other people for an honest opinion or to perform a few personality tests. Or give yourself a goal to find at least 10 toxic behavioral patterns and then rank them. If you’re out of ideas, you can help yourself with things like:

    When you pinpoint a toxic behavioral pattern, your job is to of course rewrite it with a healthier one.

    Short-term future predictions

    Short-term past is a great predictor of short-term future. Take different life metrics like body fat percentage, net worth, the number of books you read etc. and analyze them for the past 3 – 9 months. Analyze the trends and where you’re headed. Are your metrics improving or not, are you advancing, declining or standing still?

    If your metrics are slowly getting worse, it means that you’re running a buggy code. You’re making bad decisions and executing bad habits. The rational conclusion is that in the future, your life situation will only get worse and that it’s time that you start working on a better code. Otherwise things will only get much harder for you. Instead make sure your life metrics are improving every month, just a little bit.

    The happiness index

    You’re here on this planet to grow, create, enjoy life and connect with other people. If you do all four, you open the potential to real happiness.

    Constantly improving yourself gives you faith in your abilities and competences, creating value gives you a sense of being valuable to the society and having an important life mission on this planet, and enjoying life is the cherry on top that makes life really worth living . And of course you can’t be happy and successful alone, you need to connect with other people, you need quality relationships in your life to really flourish.

    The happier you are in general, the better core code you are running.

    All that leads to real happiness in life. Under one big condition. If you were programmed to be happy. If you were not programmed to be happy, there is no relationship, achievement or material possession that could bring happiness into your life. Even if you follow the “grow, create, enjoy, connect” formula, you can be very unhappy if you’re hindered by too many cognitive distortions, high emotional lability, suboptimal thinking or any other type of weak thinking.

    So if you want to be truly happy, you must first deal with your core code (kernel) and then build the right kind of actions and behavior on top of that. That leads to a simple conclusion. The happier you are in general, the better core code you are running.

    Happiness Index
    Happiness Index, Source: Agile trail

    There is a simple exercise that will show how good your kernel code is. All you need to do then is to figure out how happy you really are on your average day, and you will know the quality of your code. The best way to do that is to introduce the happiness index into your life.

    Every day, you mark how happy you are on a scale from 1 to 10 on a chart. After doing that for a few weeks, you can quickly see your general level of happiness and the quality of the code you’re running in your brains. Everything from 8 – 10 means your kernel is running the right code, everything below 4 means that it’s supper buggy, turning you into a zombie. Even if you’re somewhere between 5 and 7, that’s not good enough for a quality and happy life.

    The life satisfaction test

    The happiness index shows how happy and satisfied you are with your life in general. You can do a very similar exercise, only that you dive a little bit deeper and estimate how good your code is for specific life areas. You expand the table with a few new columns and build your life-satisfaction chart.

    First you draw a scale from 1 to 10 horizontally, like with the happiness index, while vertically you list the key areas of life or the areas you’ve chosen to assess. You assess every area or category of life from 1 to 10. Below, you can find an example of that kind of a life-assessment chart.

    1 2 3 8 9 10
    Health X
    Relationships X
    Money X
    Career X
    Emotions X
    Competences X
    Fun X
    Spirituality X
    Technology skills X

    Made-up case as an example

    Then there is the second step. In the second step, you take another look at all the life areas you assessed with marks 4, 5, 6 or 7. These are all the life areas where you’re averagely satisfied. But average satisfaction doesn’t tell us if you’re running good code in your brains or not. The truth is that life areas either work or they don’t, you’re either satisfied or you aren’t, there is no middle ground. You’re either super healthy or not, you either have enough of money or you lack it.

    That is also known as the possibility to have only two different kinds of problems in life. You either rock or you suck in different areas of life. Therefore, in the second step you assess life areas again, but now only by using the numbers 1, 2, 3, and 8, 9, 10. You must take more time to really think about the areas you’re satisfied with and the ones you aren’t.

    Then you can make a simplified conclusion to further analyze your life and its quality. For the life areas rated from 1 – 3, you’re probably running very buggy software. And for the life areas rated 8 – 10, your software is working fine or even super great.

    That kind of an analysis can help you a lot with determining which parts of your brain code you have to work on the most. You often see that we only have parts and pieces of code that are broken and need an update. For example, you are doing well financially, but aren’t taking care of your health. It’s obvious where you need an update.

    Gap to ideal self

    The last test I call the ideal self gap. You have your actual self, who you are at this moment, and you have an ideal self, representing who you would like to become. Not many people are aware that they have an ideal self, so the best way to become aware of it in a very detailed way is to make a persona of your ideal self. Once you make that, you can easily compare your actual self to your ideal self.

    In the next step, you can analyze how far your ideal self is from your actual self. How fast are you approaching your ideal self? In the past year, how many personality characteristic, behavioral patterns and competences have you changed or improved to come closer to your ideal self? The greater the gap, the more recoding you need to do. The faster you want to approach your ideal self, the faster you have to write new lines of code.

    Reprogram yourself

    Reprogram yourself

    A few simple tests can very quickly tell you how much reprogramming you have to do and the quality of the code you’re running in your brain. The good news is that you can reprogram almost everything about yourself. I mean really everything. It’s impressive how you’re nothing more than a lot of lines of biological code you can rewrite. It’s often not very easy to do that, but it can be done.

    Practical examples

    I used to hate exercise, now I simply love it. There is no perfect day without doing something for my body. I am currently reprogramming myself for a better posture. It’s hard work, but I can already see the new code giving me better results.

    My favorite dish used to be the Wiener Schnitzel (fried veal) with French fries. Back then I was extremely fat. Now my favorite food is broccoli. I used to hate olives and flicked them off a pizza. Now I love olives. I just forced myself a little bit to eat them for a few weeks, and then they became tasty. I now eat pizza maybe twice a year. Yes, you can even reprogram your taste.

    I used to have huge problems with my temper. I reprogrammed myself to be calmer and wiser. I used to hate reading and books, even though I was an extraordinary pupil in primary school. Now I love reading, I never go to sleep without reading at least one page in a book.

    In primary school, my favorite subject was math. Then I unfortunately reprogrammed myself somewhere on the way to hate math (I suppressed some negative painful experiences). Now I want to reprogram myself back to loving math again.

    You can basically reprogram yourself for anything. From how your body operates to what foods you like, the habits you follow, how you think and behave, what are your emotional reactions, how happy you are in life, what kind of relationships you forge and how healthy you are, how good you are at acquiring and managing money, and everything else you can think off.

    There are some limits, of course, you can’t reprogram yourself to be taller, but there are so many things you can do. All you need is a little bit of courage, motivation and awareness that you only live once, so you want to make the most out of it.

    How to reprogram yourself?

    The last question is, of course, how to reprogram yourself. There are many ways to reprogram yourself and new ways are constantly being invented.

    From cognitive conditioning to behavioral conditioning, changing your environment and building relationships with people who have the personality traits you want, getting a mentor, strategically developing healthier habits, modeling, going to therapy, meditation, reading, cognitive reframing, refocusing your mind on gratefulness and positives, visualization, the search mode, and so on.

    Much like there is no one best programming language and one best code environment, there is also no one ultimate technique for reprograming yourself. You must test, experiment and find the ones that work best for you.

    So the first way you must reprogram yourself is to keep an open mind, always try new things to see if they work well for you, and to always stay curios together with nurturing the will to constantly improve yourself.

    You already are a programmer

    You don’t have to learn how to code to be a programmer. And you don’t have to learn Photoshop to be a designer and user experience expert. You see, you are already a designer of your own life.

    You are already running code in your brain that shapes your life strategy and consequently your destiny. Your life code and your life design dictate whether your life will be a daring adventure or nothing.

    BTW, code is what runs behind a program, and the user experience and design are how you see and use the program. The same way as your brain runs the code with which you make decisions and that gives you a certain life experience and design (style, functionality etc.).

    Homework

    bug featureNever ever take the code in your brains as it is, especially if it’s not leading you in a positive direction. Instead become a programmer of your life and reprogram yourself to a better version.

    Reprogram yourself to become the best version of yourself. Start by updating your brain code now and write the lines that will lead you to the best life possible, the good life.

    Don’t get too frustrated in the beginning. Beginnings are the hardest. And don’t get demotivated if you fail from time to time. The new code can’t always work as you hoped it will. You usually have to rewrite your code several times (the search mode) to find the one that works best for you (your fit). For example, you may have to try several different diets to find the one that works best for you.

    It’s hard, beginnings are the hardest, but it’s definitely worth it. And it can be a lot of fun. Okay, now I have to go back to improving my knowledge on coding. You know, to efficiently communicate with robots soon. Good luck with reprogramming yourself.

  • Always have something to look forward to

    I am a man of potentials. I never look at things as how they are, but as how they could be. The thing I dislike the most is wasted potential, especially wasted talents. It’s kind of a gift and a curse for me. It’s a curse because potential is endless. There are no limits to improvements and advancements (it’s one of the basic Kaizen rules). So you can easily lose yourself in perfectionism and greed, in a “there is never enough” mentality.

    It’s also a gift, because by seeing potential everywhere, you push yourself and other people to become the best versions of themselves. You never see people as they are, but everything they still can achieve in life with their abilities. That’s why you push them, mentor them and try to inspire them. And when laziness stifles potential in someone, there’s a special type of sadness in your heart.

    An even more relevant reason why seeing potential is a gift is because you always have something to look forward to – a relationship that can go even deeper, thinking that can be bigger and even more creative, a business than can grow higher, a more challenging mountain to climb, a party that you can make wilder (I mean wiser), sex more passionate, and so on.

    When you see potential in everything, you can very easily find things to look forward to. There is always something new to discover, something new to build. Life can never get boring.

    Believing, hoping and trusting

    If you want to go after the potential you see, you must first believe it can be done. You must hope. You must have a deep feeling of expectation and desire for a particular potential to be realized. You need a strong feeling of trust that it can be done. Without hope, it’s hard to go forward, especially when you are faced with adversity. Potential and hope are your two best friends.

    But even though you hope for the best, you have to prepare for the worst. Hope is not a strategy. Only hoping that things will miraculously solve themselves or that something will happen because of a higher force, be it love, market trends or anything else, is a very very bad strategy. Unfortunately, it’s a strategy many people turn to.

    Hope is a feeling of expectation and desire for a particular thing to happen. Hope is a feeling of trust.

    Right on top of hope, you need a plan. You need a strategy – a superior life strategy, business strategy, project strategy, relationship strategy or whatever your goal in life is. You need to pause for a moment, analyze the environment, set clear outcomes you want, set metrics, follow a carefully orchestrated process towards your goals, and constantly adjust your actions based on the feedback you get from interactions.

    And you need to innovate. You need to think big, optimally and superproactively. You need to be different and better than your competition. It’s easy to be only different, you have to find a way to be different and better. By combining hope and a superior strategy, you can win big, then you can massively succeed.

    Potential, hope and a superior strategy are really your best friends and a winning combo.

    First hope, then always have something to look forward to

    Fighting for your goals and dream life is not easy. You have to put an enormous amount of hard and smart work to be slowly moving in a direction you want.

    Even when you have a superior plan, you keep everything agile and you carefully follow the process stages, you are often knocked out by failing and collapses. Adversity and unexpected breakdowns can take all your passion and life energy in a single second. Without strong hope, you will definitely give up on life sooner or later.

    Without an unbreakable spirit filled with hope and without seeing potential that you can go after, you stop fighting. You stop going forward, you stop innovating and improving yourself. You resign yourself to an average life and you slowly start turning into a zombie. When you stop fighting, life only hits harder and your situation only gets worse. The easy road, represented by giving up, always turns into a hard road.

    Make sure you never lose hope. Never ever. No matter how difficult your situation is, no matter how hard life knocked you down, never give up. Never stop hoping for a better future. There is always a way to go forward, there is always a step to make towards a better life, there is always something to look forward to.

    In the darkest hours, stars shine the brightest.

    Instead of drowning in misery and cursing life, take a piece of paper and list all the things you can look forward to. People to meet, things to read, a new project to initiate or things to create, the sun on your face, a tasty meal, a visit to the gym or a cup of coffee. List at least 50 things; or rather 100. There are so many big and small things you can look forward to. Every day, without exceptions.

    Here are a few additional ideas for how to use to your advantage the power to look forward to life events:

    • In people (their character), find something you’re looking forward to experiencing again.
    • Set a reward for yourself for finishing a demanding task or performing a new habit.
    • List all the small (free) things that you can look forward to every day (sun, meals etc.).
    • Have a list of things you really enjoy and make sure you regularly plan them in your schedule.
    • Practice seeing potential everywhere, from places to people and businesses.

    Always have something to look forward to

    The psychology behind hope and a few additional tricks to develop it

    According to Erickson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development, hope is the first stage that develops between 0 and 18 months of a child’s upbringing. It’s a positive resolution between an internal conflict of trust and mistrust.

    Stage Age Conflict / Crisis Resolution / Virtue
    1 Infant – 18 months Basic trust vs. Mistrust Hope
    2 18 m. – 3 years Autonomy vs. Shame Will
    3 3 – 5 years Initiative vs. Guilt and Doubt Purpose
    4 5 – 13 years Industry vs. Inferiority Competence
    5 13 – 21 years Identity vs. Confusion Fidelity
    6 21 – 39 years Intimacy vs. Isolation Love
    7 40 – 65 years Generativity vs. Stagnation Care
    8 65 and older Integrity vs. Despair Wisdom

    When you are born, you are uncertain about life, and the only way to develop hope is to get consistent, predictable and reliable care from your parents (or a non-parent caretaker). To be even more exact, three conditions have to be fulfilled in order to develop trust and hope: A caretaker has to:

    1. provide physical and emotional care,
    2. show continuity or consistency in the child’s life, and
    3. must have an emotional investment in the child.

    Yes, developing hope is all about consistency in taking care of a child’s needs, the stability of the environment, developing a relationship with a child with positive energies and communicating a sense of purpose to the child that parents are driven by.

    It’s about developing positive relationships with a child without being depressed, feeling severe guilt, being messy and inconsistent or hindered and absent because of any other negative emotions. It’s about trying to empathically understand what a baby wants when crying, and responding in a healthy and fast enough manner by being purposefully and emotionally invested.

    Now, I’m not highlighting this psychological background to point fingers and find a way to blame others if you can’t find hope in your life to lean on. You can’t go back to being an infant, but you can work hard on personal development to develop deeper levels of trust in yourself, others and life in general. It’s not like everything is lost. The first step you can do is to take better care of yourself and your environment.

    According to the three conditions that have to be met in order for an infant to develop trust, make sure you have such a relationship with yourself and others in your adult life, and that you organize your environment in a way that provides such stability. Here are a few ideas how:

    • Take good care of your body and health (exercise, eat healthy, get enough sleep etc.).
    • Pay very close attention to your emotions and express them. Use the happiness index.
    • Learn to love yourself and put yourself in the first place.
    • Be assertive and regularly meet your needs in a healthy manner.
    • Introduce regular rituals into your life that provide consistency and look forward to them.
    • Develop stable and deep relationships, especially the six key ones (family, spouse, friends, boss, coworkers, mentor).
    • Define a clear life vision and mission that inspire you and are greater than any obstacle you meet on the road towards your goal.
    • And as we’ve talked about, always have something to look forward to.

    Success in life is not doing something remarkable. Success in life is doing everyday ordinary things in a remarkably consistent and disciplined way. It’s called following and trusting the process.

    Things to look forward to will definitely strengthen your hope in life.

    If you manage to make yourself look forward to and anticipate doing these everyday small and “boring” things (talking to someone, creating something new, solving a problem, cleaning home etc.), your life will be much more successful and happy. Hope and never ever give up.